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writes:So after being with my boyfriend of almost a year (4 weeks till anniversary), he broke up with me. I mean its not like i was sad or anything. Because i was already planning on it. See my boyfriend moved 3 1/2 months ago to another state. He said he was going to come this month for our anniversary or for my birthday(this week) but for just 2-3 days. Whats the point of that? So he could leave all over again for idk how many more months. So anyways we broke up because i cheated on him. His friends snitched on me first, and so yea he was so mad at me, and i understand his pain and anger, because i never intended to that to him. But don't i have the right to do what makes me happy? Obviously my boyfriend(now ex) wasn't. All his friends (including him) think oh that hes the innocent good guy. When he really isn't. He was controlling and i guess just sprung. I guess the fact that he was older made him think to much, as in getting married with me and everything(btw he was 3 years older than me) but i had been thinking.... I have 2 years left in highschool and i know hes not coming back to this school. Hes already working and stuff. How would it work out in the future? Me wanting to accomplish my goals and him pulling me down, wanting to settle down. I liked talking to him about that tho, but i cheated on him, because i just needed change. I feel bad about it, but after everything i feel so much happier, no more tears down my face because of a guy. This time, the only tears running down my face would be happy ones=)Do you think i would be punished(karma) because of this decision? I would just like some opinions. Sorry for the lengthy story. =)
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (16 March 2011):
 You are a normal girl with a good head on her shoulders, and you are wise to realize that it probably wouldn't have lasted no matter what you did, not at your age, especially not long distance.
The only thing you did wrong was end it by cheating because you didn't know how to get out of it any other way. There are 36 year olds out there who are married and do the same thing for the same reason. It's not a nice thing to do but at your age I would never hold it against you. And karma won't either.
But it is important for us to learn from our mistakes. So in the future try just telling the guy straight out, I'm sorry but this isn't working for me anymore. I think we should break up. Before going out with someone else.
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