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writes:Am I a coward? I'm avoiding contact with my ex-girlfriend, and so I'm avoiding MSN messenger all together. I've tried to be her friend after the break up, but I get too upset to keep doing it. It's been months since she broke up with me, and I just wish I was man enough to face talking to her, without thinking about how much I miss being with her.Should I keep avoiding her? Does this make me a coward?
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (30 December 2007):
 It doesnt make you a coward at all. Its healthy and totally normal when a relationship ends. I'm avoiding my ex like the plague and like you, i'm avoiding msn cos of that feeling in my stomach when he signs in (you know what im talking about!), and i avoid facebook, myspace...anything that reminds me of him.
its not you being a coward, its you doing yourself a favour and you should keep doing it. maybe one day when you're completely over her and dont have any romantic feelings for her you can be friends but until then dont beat yourself up, keep her as far out of your mind as you can.
take care
brooke
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (30 December 2007):
 You are not a coward and yes, you should continue to avoid her. It's the only thing that will help you heal and move on. Plus when you meet another woman, she will not want you being friends with your ex. It's best to put this relationship in a box and throw away the key. Good luck.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 No, it doesn't at all make you a coward! She broke up with you and you still feel hurt, and as long as talking to her only makes you feel bad, then I would say better for you to avoid her. There is no need for you to torment yourself with talking to her when all you can think of is how much you miss her. It doesn't matter that it has been months ago, it takes different amount of time for different people until you feel comfortable speaking with your ex again, and for some people it will never feel comfortable to be friends with their ex. It is nothing wrong with that.
Do what makes YOU feel good, not what you think your ex or others think you should or shouldn't do. It doesn't at all make you a bad man for not face talking to her if you are not yet ready for it. It is your life and your decision only.
Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): Well avoiding her won't make you a coward, but however i suggest you stop avoiding her and face that she has broken up with you but however you could also try telling her how you still feel for her and how much your missing her. Also did she say why she broke up with you? and was it a good enough reason if was then don't avoid her, and perhaps just leave things as they are.
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