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writes:Hello again... I posted a question yesterday asking how can I learn to love myself.I didn't really get any of what I was looking for so I'm wondering if someone who has experienced life a little (over 30) can comment or advise on my situation.I'm 28 years old and want to do some soul searching and learn to love myself so I will then be able to fully love others...Again... does anyone know of some methods/stategies I can adopt to learn to love myself???/Aunts of age, I really need you on this one. Reply to this Question
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reader, sirrenity7 +, writes (15 April 2009):
sirrenity7 is verified as being by the original poster of the question to army medic...i can't help what im more or not more receptive to...i didn't really receive what i was looking for therefore posted the question again...no thanks...i don't need a repeat of emily's response or i wouldn't have posted the same question again...
askeve...hit it on the dot...as you may notice her age range is 41-50, which is what i requested...
also if you would notice from my response to emily, i thanked her for her response, but simply am not having an issue with making life goals, i've already accomplished those...
it's funny though, that an older person understood exactly what i was asking and coming from....
it's no offense to people under 30, but they just simply haven't been here long enough to answer the question..."IN MY OPINION"...i don't think theres any restrictions on having preferences on how old you would like your aunts to be...
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You posted this yesterday :http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-learn-to-love-myself.html. I'm sorry all us young people can't help you.
I understand that some of the aunts on here are teenagers who have just posted questions about "I love J and J loves F but F is gay, so whatever!" and do post some "interesting" answers. But you shot down Emily who is 2 years younger than you and gave you some helpful advice so take what she said from me as I am 30 in September and agree with everything she said is that good enough or would you like me to post this after my Birthday!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 April 2009):
 You need to believe that you really matter in this life! You are a very special and unique person and the world would be a worse place without you. Ask yourself questions and try to find out who you really are... what you really want/seek from this life then ask the Universe to bring the answers to you. Think positive thoughts, write down 5 things you like about yourself then write down something you would like to achieve within the next week and try to achieve that! I'm not talking about achieving material things I'm talking about achieving inner peace and contentment.
For example: "This week I am going to do someone a good turn." See how it feels once you've done that. Feel the sense of inner satisfaction you get from it, knowing you've helped someone in some way. "Today I'm going to do something that I've been putting off." This could be anything from exercise, tidying out a cupboard or making a phone call to a friend you keep meaning to ring. DO IT! See how you feel afterwards.
It may be that your self esteem has taken a knock from something that's happened in the past. Instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out things you hate about yourself, point out something you like and enhance it! Have a look at this link and it will help you get it back and do the self esteem test, (it's free to do and you'll get your answer instantly).
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php?ad=41
Always learn to love yourself from the inside out. If you learn to be happy with who you are and strive to achieve what you want to achieve then you'll be content and your whole persona will reflect this.
Learn too about how to be a more spiritual person. This will bring you on heaps and bounds. It will help alleviate worry and stress that build up inside you. Also, I would strongly advise you to read "Conversations with God" by Neale Donald Walsch. After reading that book (of which there are 3 in total) you will NEVER look at yourself in the same way ever again! It is so uplifting and upbuilding, it will change your life!
"I've learned that everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it."
Here are a few some wise sayings which you might find beneficial. I hope they help you as much as they did me!
The most useless thing to do... Worry
The greatest Joy... Giving
The greatest loss... Loss of self-respect
The most satisfying work.... Helping others
The ugliest personality trait... Selfishness
The most endangered species... Dedicated leaders
The greatest ‘shot in the arm’... Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome... Fear
Most effective sleeping pill... Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease... Excuses
The most powerful force in life... Love
The most dangerous pariah... A gossiper
The world's most incredible computer... The brain
The worst thing to be without... Hope
The deadliest weapon... The tongue
The two most power-filled words... "I Can"
The greatest asset... Faith
The most worthless emotion... Self-pity
The most prized possession... Integrity
The most beautiful attire... A Smile
Most powerful channel of communication... Prayer
The most contagious spirit... Enthusiasm
The most important thing in life... your Higher Power
~Eve~
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