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writes:My friend was with his first girlfriend for six months from september 2008 up until march 2009.He kept telling us about how awful the relationship was after the first couple of months and to this day he still talks about it.All of his relationships only last for two months and then he goes on rants about how they were all psychos. But out of all of them he ALWAYS goes on about her.He even mentioned her at one point when me and him were fooling around and he started comparing my breasts to hers. Although he meant it as a compliment, I still thought it was a bit strange.Is it possible that he still isn't over her?Would it affect his relationships? Does anyone have a real chance with winning his heart if he isn't over her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not actually interested in this guy anymore, that was a while ago and I'm just using it as an example. He is my friend and at the moment he is going out with someone who is in my other circle of friends. I've never been really sure if he was over the first girl and I am genuinely concerned for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): I agree with the other posts. This guy is the common denomenator in his relationships and if he can't take any of the fault and calls all his exes psychos, then he is most likely a USER. You fooling around with him is not going to win his heart. Men don't fall in love by having sex...and his comment comparing your breasts to hers does not indicate he is not over her, it is a manipulation tactic to undermine your self confidence so he has the "upper hand" in this relationship scenario.
He's the psycho, get away from him. And remember, you don't need to win over any guys heart, it is the other way around between men and women...got it?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 June 2010):
If he's not over her, no woman will convert him. He needs to be over her before anyone does anything with him, or that woman will always be second best. And as the post below says, it's worrying that he claims all his ex's were psychos. It's more likely he has major problems.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (20 June 2010):
 seems odd that all his girlfriends were "psycho's" maybe he isn't the type to enjoy relationships, or maybe he pushes girls away. either way to compare your breasts to his ex girlfriends is at best a clumsy atempt at a compliment, at worst an example of how to alienate a prospective girlfriend with a lack of manners and respect. its almost like something Roy from the IT crowd (TV SHOW) would say on a date-not good.
maybe he needs to grow up before you have a chance with him- i am assuming you are interested. if past behaviour is anything to go by he might end up dumping you quickly after labelling you a psycho to anyone who will listen. not an attractive trait on his part...
good luck
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