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writes:Hey, I have been with this guy for about 8 months now (we're 17) and generally its going ok. However, recently - hes been a little bit more distant from me and hasnt been complimenting me as much as normal. I don't thnk its that hes loosing interest but more because hes got other things on his mind such as exams etc. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to keep a guy interested in you??? (just in case - u know?!)Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Being 7 months together.You might of got over the honeymoon stage of your relationship and youve grown comfortable with eachother and he might feel he dont need to compliment you as much.This is perfectly normal as a relationship moves on.There again he has got exams and its a important thing for him.You cant really keep a guy intersted in you but by respecting the fact he has exams and giving him space will help with text messages here and there saying hope the revision is going ok luv u etc to show you are still thinking of him and perhaps suggest when the revision gets too much you can met up.
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reader, LISAG +, writes (25 January 2007):
 I personally would give him a bit of distance/space back, he could be losing interest and becoming complacent ! Or he may just be genuiely busy. But think about it for a minute, if you were as busy as hell you'd still find time for him yeah ? Get busy yourself and see if he finds time for you, let him chase you. I expect that you've both become used to knowing one another is there, and yes, that is normal progress in a relationship, but it can also be boring and predictable and the kiss of death to it. Keep the excitement going by changing the routine. He may well just be distracted for the moment and in time will return to his usual behaviour. But listen carefully, as he seems to be pulling away for whatever reason, be clever and claw it back to your advantage by pretending not to notice and getting on with your own life. If he is genuinely a bit too busy for you right now, he will return. If he is genuinely getting a bit bored of the routine at least you will save face by moving on at the same time, if that makes any sense !
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): if you're worrying about whether a guy's interest is waning, the solution is not to try harder. be nice to him, always, of course. but if he's being distant, accept that as a sign that he wants some space to focus on other things (like his exams) and try not to internalize it as being about you (it probably isn't). if you're lonely or bored b/c you're spending less time with him than you used to, and now that time is empty, try filling it up with other things.
his interest will be independent of what you do - you want it to be about who you are, anyway
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 January 2007):
 I think your relationship is just slowing down to the stage where you don't need to constantly compliment each other to feel secure. You say he's stressed about his exams so in the short term gestures would be good. Give him a massage to chill him out or cook him a good nutritious brain food meal. Just little gestures can make a huge difference right now.
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