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writes:I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but has anyone ever dealt with bad friends? It seems like the friends I make only care about themselves. I don't want to go on a rant but ever since I was a child I have not had many friends. Until my recent college years I managed to make 3 friends. The thing is I'm so tired of being a good friend and getting nothing in return. I always listen to them and let them borrow money, do favors for them and so much other stuff. I don't have many problems but when I need someone to hear me out or do me a small favor they can't help me out. I just started to realize this and I feel very angry at them but at the same time I have no one else to talk to. I always encourage them and say genuine things about their problems but they don't even say something nice about me like when I got a haircut they didn't say any compliments. I don't want to be alone but I'm tired of being so nice and stupid. Sorry for wall of text. Thanks for reading.
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reader, bluewarrior911 +, writes (19 October 2014):
 Nice...YES, but, stupid...NO!!! All I can say is that you are a hidden jewel. A diamond in a rough. A gift from heaven. So, please don't ever change...EVER!!
"Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you"
BTW...that's a nice haircut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2014): I can identify with you. I think it is because we have different expectations about what a friend is versus other people that use that word.Like you, I have made only a few friends in my lifetime. Most people have let me down and I am not so desperate for contact (or social if you want to frame it in a polite way) that I have a high tolerance for antics. Also, yes, I have felt used on more than one occasion. Some people are like us and other people have "friends" that come and go. For me a friend is not someone I associate with for a short time and then part ways with. I call that an acquaintance. Friend means something else. Your post makes me think of a woman I know who is a social butterfly. She makes friends very easily. She also lets them go very easily (or they go on their own volition). I have known her many years and over time her circle of friends is constantly evolving. I don't think any have lasted the entire time I have known her (20 years). At the same time I have very few friends but those that I have I have had for almost that entire period. I guess that's just a difference in personality. Try to find friends who use the word more like you mean it.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 October 2014):
I don't think anyone has friends that don't care about them, not even you, because those aren't real friends.
I'd drop them as it should be a pleasure, not a pain. Get out there and make some new ones.
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