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writes:This isn't really a question since I know that no one is a mind reader and I know that the situation I'm in can be resolved by me completely ending it. But, I just want to know if anyone out there has someone on their mind that just won't leave!I've been seeing this guy off and on for almost a year and a half. Of course it has just been a "sexual" type of relationship. I've already told him I had feelings for him about 6 mos. ago and he told me that he cares about me but he's not in the right place in his life for a relationship. So I didn't sleep with him anymore and he would still text me here and there with small talk. Then one day I couldn't take it anymore and told him that I can't go on feeling this way if he just wanted to be friends. He said he was sorry to hear that and I said I was sorry too and didn't speak to him anymore. Two months passed and he texted again with small talk like nothing ever happened. I replied but we didn't talk much and I didn't continue to initiate any conversations later.This last weekend I was attacked by some random guy who was high on drugs and had been drinking. Nothing too serious but I was scraped up and sore. I felt sad and like I needed a guy around to at least hold me or feel some sort of affection after feeling so abused by some guy I didn't even know! I told him a few days later what had happened. His reaction was different than I had expected. He was upset and wanted to find the guy and to let him know if he gave me anymore to trouble to let him know. Later that night he asked me to come over so I did. And yes, we slept together. I left early since I needed to get ready for work. He asked me how my day was later that night... small talk again.Today... he will not leave my brain! I'm upset with myself for letting him back in again but at the same time I'm happy I got to see him. It's very bittersweet. Does anyone else do this foolishness to themselves or have been in a similar situation? I'm totally driving myself nuts! I'm 27 years old and I feel like a naive teenager! I think I'm in love with him but a part of me tells me not to because he doesn't love you back. What are your thoughts? What do you do when you're in this predicament (I know "keep busy") to keep your mind off of them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Wow- I hope we haven't been mixed up with the same gut--what are the chances? But yes, I have had the same thing with this one guy. He gave me the same BS after I told him how I felt after having a fwb relationship..his response was he was confused and not at the right place in life--so yes, not contact for a little while, then BOOM-he texts me some random unrelated text. I fall back into it again. Texting about things but never once about "us". I think he has deep seeded emotional issues making it impossible for him to have a meaningful relationship. Probably explains why he is 35 and still single- frustrating to say the least- a very hard read
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reader, ZETACC  +, writes (12 December 2010):
its a hard situation, seems this guy cares about you but doesnt really love you . sometimes we fall in love no matter how bad the relationship is .try to cool it down as you ll be hurt . gd luck
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