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writes:Next summer I will be moving in to an apartment with my best guy friend. We will both be 18. We have known each other for a little over 4 years and get along really well most of the time.I lost my virginity to him, and we have never been together as a couple. I'm alittle uneasy about sharing a place with him as I have hidden feelings for him. I know for a fact he has no feelings towards me the way I do towards him.This will be our first time moving out of our parents and getting our own place. Does anybody have any advise or tips of how friends of the opposite sex can live together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the person who first answered my question.It says we have been Best Friends.He would not rape me.We both drink together on ocassion,and he is not an a_______.so thank you.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 September 2008):
 You say that your friend was your first sexual lover and that you have "hidden" feelings for him, which is understandable. I would prefer that all young women have (at least) VERY strong feelings for any man with whom they first share their ultimate loving experience. In a perfect world (Western version), that would mean intended lifelong companionship - difficult to achieve or even expect these days. Ideals are great, but at least I'm a realist.
In your situation, it sounds like you harbor a lot more affection than he, and the arrangement planned may prove very unsatisfactory for you in the long run. It may also prove heartbreaking, which is something you should consider avoiding all your life - for your own good, health and longevity. Best wishes to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): and why cant you live with someone else?
id advice against living with a guy friend, how well do you know him? you cant know anyone as well as yourself. what if he gets drunk and will want to rape you????
what if u are going to totally fall in love with him and he is going to break your heart when he will start bringing girls home and you will hear him having sex with them????
think about this!
take care x
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