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writes:Hello cupidsI would like to partly provide follow-up to a question i recently asked, and ask for some adviceThis is the question i asked on valentines day: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-draw-my-ex-ldr-boyfriend.htmlever since i asked that question, yesterday, my ex messaged me online and asked if it was ok to video call, i accepted so he video called me, he told me he was going to write something for his friends to see, but it wasn't true, i shouldn't take offence from it and that he was doing it to get a reaction from someone, so i asked "why does it matter? we are only friends now" to which he replied "because i saw stuff from my ex that made me angry or upset" and i said "still, we are only friends so it shouldn't matter" to which he replied "yeah well..." then i said "so you still care about me then?" and he replied with "well yeah..."Then a little while later, after our video call, he wrote something asking if anyone wanted to go to london for a day, i messaged him asking if that was what he wanted to write that he spoke to me about, he replied with "no, not doing it now" so i just replied with "ok"Then he came to me and asked if i wanted to go to london for a day(in relation to what he wrote publicly) and i reminded him that i'm very far away etc. then he asked me to phone him, so i did, and we spoke about it more, i re-reminded him about how far away from london i am in relation to him, and he said i could go up for a day, at first i thought his idea was absurd, but then instantly remembered i have a concession card for travel, so i told him this, but i then said "wouldn't it just be easier to do when i come up?"(when he broke it off with me on Sunday i asked him if he still wanted me to go up in March as planned and he said yes) and he agreed.While on the phone he told me he was waiting for a phonecall to go out, he was still online after an hour, so i messaged him asking if he was going out and he said "nt yet idk" then a little while later again "take it you aren't going out then?" and i can't remember what he replied back to that.This morning i wrote something for my friends to see, saying "fuck been having some proper wierd dreams lately! lol xD" due to our breakup and my ex commented saying "like" so i replied with "everything! i've had big ponk elephants in my dreams, i've had flying dogs, people with massive heads lol, everyone smokes weed or does some sort of drug, snails in the toilet allsorts haha xD" to which he replied "drugs" then i wrote ":O i'm not doing drugs!" and he put "sounds like u r" and i put "well i'm not..."then the guy came online that has done all my tattoos, and he said hi first, it was the usual hi, how are you sort of thing, then he asked me about my dream thing i wrote about, he said "did you have a nice dream?" i replied with "no it was fucking wierd lol" and he said "ok well you will have a good dream tonight" he's no psychic or anything, but i'm sure you all know what i mean, when people are just trying to comfort you, so i said "i doubt it" and he said "yeah you will, you will have to tell me tomorrow lol" so i said "ok then lol"that is pretty much everything that has happened up to this point where i am writing this question.To begin with, when the guy i spoke to about my dreams said that i will have a good one tonight, i got it into my head for a split second that my ex was gonna come to mine and make everything all better, but i soon snapped back to reality and knew that wasn't going to happen.So i'm just curious as to whether any of this that has happened means anything, it most probably doesn't, so i shall post this question and await advice, i apologise for it being long, like my last question, but again i just want to make the situation as clear as possible.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 I think if you go see him you will find him warm and loving and having sex with you and then he will go back to the old ways.
"it's up to you" is a nice way of saying I DON"T CARE
guard your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): It sounds like hes finding it hard to let go,so are you...maybe you should stop contact for a while and let him miss you properly. Your being too available to him considering you've split up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): You use the LDR EX Dude as a distraction. You aren't ready for a REAL close, reliable relationship. You won't be either if you hang on to the LDR guy.
You want peace in your life and real lasting happiness, cut the EX out of your FB, your contacts, your life.
Then move on.
When you are bored and outgrown the drama and chaos of the EX LDR and all of that; you'll do what is advised.
Until that happens, you just prolong the games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): I would also like to add, that in the same video call that he ended it, i asked him if he still wanted me to come up, he said "it's up to you" so i said "well if you don't want me to then i won't bother, do you want me to or not?" and he said "yes".
He then asked what i wanted to do when i was there and i said "well firstly i'd like to sit down and have a proper chat with you" he didn't say anything to this, but then when i carried on the list(which i said "go to the local park if it's nice weather, like we used to, go bowling or swimming or whatever, go for a few drinks etc. etc.") and he said "yeah", like a confirmation, inbetween each one
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