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writes:In 2 days it'll be my boyfriends and my 3 month anniversary. We've spent almost every single day together since then and all of my friends adore him. He respects me, and he, himself, isn't even thinking about sex, neither am i. Hes perfect in every way, except for the fact that, hes 17 almost 18, and im only 15. Hes going into his senior year, and I'm going into my sophomore year. I worry about age while he doesnt care at all. My parents love him, hes nice, caring and friendly. He's also a fire fighter so he has a good reputation, but I worry that he is going to find someone older and better then i am. He always says things like "baby i thought i would never find a girl whos as beautiful and caring as you. Your the first girl i've ever been with who loves me for me. You make me feel so special about myself and you always know how to cheer me up.". I know he sincerely means these things, but the 2 and a half year age difference worries me. I'm also not sure on the legal matters of my relationship. He'll be 18 in 3 months... what does that mean for me?Do you think age matters?
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (27 June 2008):
 It sounds wonderful, and there's no reason it shouldn't work out.
BUT.
There is one big consideration here. Topic "A". Sex. There are lots of laws in this country designed to protect "children" (that would be ... you) from "adult sexual predators" (that would be be someone 18 or over who tries to have sex with "children"). Ring any bells? Laws vary from place to place, but in a lot of areas the older person can end up in jail and branded as a sex offender who will never be able to hold a decent job in their life.
If you think things might be headed that way, PLEASE find out what the laws are in your area before you do something that could wind you both up in deep trouble. And follow the laws. Because there are GOING to be some do-good busy bodies who will be out to "protect" you, whether you want it or not.
And a couple of years from now, the age difference between you will be absolutely meaningless. So hang tight. If you two really do love one another, if it's more than just a physical thing, you've got time to enjoy getting to know one another as people. Time to enjoy the whole range of social activities that go with your age of life. And that's very special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): aww thats the sweetest thing ever..i wish i had a bf like that..its good that your parents love him too.it is going to be illegal but it doesnt matter.u two are perfect for each other.and yeah i know your worried because the senior year is crazy and theres going to be parties and prom and everything.but if he said those kinda things then he really does mean it.and u should trust him i dont thiink that anything bad will happen to u guys any time soon
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