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writes:On sex and pleasure, Does it matter the size of a women down south? If she is taller or smaller her vagina will be better for him or not? How about the lenght/long/short of the vagina, does this matter to a guy? Does this only matter to EGO driven guys?How about the emotions a guy fells for a women and how sex feels?
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reader, sparroe  +, writes (28 January 2016):
Yes,So important to be suitable to the thickness of the penis
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reader, commonsensewoman  +, writes (17 June 2014):
As a woman ages, the muscle and skin of the vaginal walls do lessen and weaken. Kegels is vital before and after having kids. Even when we don't have kids it is very important to do. In time, woman can pee when they laugh, cough or sneeze, that can come from age and can also come from the mentality that bigger is better.It is a part of women's health to keep it tight, to keep the muscles strong so we can maintain control of our pee and use it for pleasure...like milking a penis, let it go in relaxed and then tighten up when they pull out or vice versa.When taking are of self, when taking care of our own power as women, a pencil dick can feel like a huge penis, so essentially when we take care of our selves all sizes that are average are good. You will not want a larger size penis after that, if you do, more exercises to bring it back or just give them a blow job. It is about self care, self honor, respect, loyalty and commitment to self...to take care of self, to be safe and be choosy. It is okay to be choosy to be safe. If you are tight it will just take time to get lubricated and horny, because the body will naturally expand itself...don't allow anyone to put large objects into you for their pleasure, remember you have to live with your pussy and they don't. Keep it healthy, clean and exercise it daily.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2013): I have to say that women are honest when it comes to answering the question about guys. Several of the ladies are even laughing at men when he does not measure up. Well, ladies, your size matters too. Now I know that excuses are easy to have for you. Women might say that giving birth is an issue, or that they only have sex with guys that have very big penis. I might say that you sleep with alot of guys. Here is the truth. I am above average, "with 5.5" being the average size of a man's junk", 7.5" and 3 3/4" in girth. There has been a time or two that I felt like I was having sex with a glass of water. This is bad. She had no kids, so thats not an excuse. I believe that some women just have a huge pussy, and that sucks. I guess what I am trying to say is, before you laugh at a guy's size, ask yourself this, is the Grand Canyon actually not in Arizona but between my legs? LOL!!!!
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reader, Freded  +, writes (20 January 2013):
First question, does size matter; Yes. Not so much size but tightness. Tightness has more to do with the muscles and whether you can control them. Some are loose and the girl can make it tight when she wants, that's best. Some are just tight the whole time, that's good but boring. Some are loose the whole time, that's just sad. The opening is wider on some girls than others from the start. That doesn't mean she will be loose once you go in.Second question; No. Being tall or short doesn't mean you have a big or small one. It has more to do with your body type. You can look at a girl from the side and get an idea of how much she can take. Skinny girls seem to have a hard time handling it whether short or tall. If you are fat or have sort of a muscular gym body or thick legs then you have a little more protection I guess you could say. From my experience if a girl is built like that it's hard to hurt her. If she's skinny you get a lot of complaining. There is only so much space from the opening to your back so obviously there is a limit to how far you can stretch. If you have a little meat around it maybe you can take an extra inch than a boney skinny girl. Anyway the guy probably doesn't care how deep it is unless you complain that he has too much or not enough. So, if you have a guy with a small one maybe lose weight and try a different position. If you're just self-concious about it then do the kegels, that never hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): To me its all about honesty if you with every guy on the block then no thanks but if its one woman one man and for life then the size of the man or woman shouldn't matter.but if you can't catch an orgasum from the male/female use your hand thats why God gave them to you hahahaha
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reader, JABT +, writes (21 February 2011):
I am 40 years old and have been happily married to my husband for 23 years. Sex has been difficult for me true the years. He is a larger man and I always thought maybe I was a wimp. He loves to say to me dam baby you are tight, honestly never looked at is as a good thing. Either I cry during sex because it is so very uncomfortable or I just pray he finishes soon so that it will be over.We have a open marrage but I havent been with very many men. The ones that I have been with that were small not only did I enjoy the experance I wanted more and had my first internal orgazium. I have been with another large men like my husband it was the same with him. I have been to the doctor and I am normal and healthy down there just smaller then normal.Here is my problem just like you cant tell the man you love you are just to small to get the job done, how do you tell the man you love you are just to dam big to get the job done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): I think men like tighter cunts because every guy I've ever been with commented on the pussy being tight and gripping their dicks; they all liked it tight. But the older experienced guys say they just love pussy period whether its loose or tight they no how to work it accordingly. Also some guys who like tight cunts are insecure.
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reader, crobar +, writes (14 June 2010):
Yes, most women always talk about guys penis size. I have found that older women in their 50's have large vaginas and need big penis's because they are so big. I think that older women lose their muscles around the walls of the inner area. Sorry but that is why so many older guys like me enjoy younger women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): no not really it depends on the person i don't think it matters tbh that being said to another it might be the most important thing i wouldn't worry about your vagina how it looks wether people may like it or dislike.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Of course it does. Too loose/tight is no good to the majority of men. I used to nail this girl who had a kid before and I was a god with her. I could bang her for hours on end and have her coming non-stop. She felt perfect inside. I've been with two virgins and I've never been able to make them cum as much, even though I've been with them longer. I've never been able to last as long with either of them as well. Tighter = greater physical stimulation. Also these virgins were hot and there was lots of love - so the mental component is there too. So bring on the experienced vagina for the all night fun, OR give me the hot new girl and I'll loosen her up... eventually! But if something is too loose, haha! no thanks. Man needs to feel accomplished after sex. If I don't see the whites of her eyes or her entire body turn into a vice a few times, I feel like I haven't done the job properly. Yes, I've got my issues!
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reader, DenverGuy +, writes (26 April 2010):
I think it matters but it depends on both parties. It really is about the match between the penis and the vagina size. If you don't have a good match then you do need to find ways to work around it.
My penis is not very thick. With some woman who are large or very wet we have a hard time feeling each other. This doesn't happen all the time, but it's not uncommon either. There have been times when I just couldn't get enough stimulation myself to reach orgasm. I know that penetration isn't the way to make a woman come, but I still don't enjoy these situations because it focuses both of our attention on the issue of my penis size. So those situations generally do not last.
But there are plenty of women who are more "snug." Those situations are fine because, even if a woman like that comments on my not being thick, I at least know she can feel me because I can feel her.
I've heard that sex is great when a woman is "tight" so I'd love to meet a woman like that someday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): I have found in my experiences that the vaginal length doesn't matter too much for a man, but it's the WIDTH of the vagina that does matter.It's a pretty simple logic, the wider the vagina, the less the male will feel. Anatomically speaking, it will produce more sensations for him if the vagina was tighter, that's for certain.BUT, a wider vagina helps him last longer. But overall, he would in a realistic world prefer a tight vagina when it comes to sexual pleasure. So, girls love girth, men love tight vaginas. Do you see a trend here?Girls should try their hardest to decrease their width so they can feel more pleasured by smaller girths, and so men with average girths can feel her. For a male with a 5 inch girth, during some 10 sexual encounters, he's bound to find quite a lot of vaginas who are too wide to accomodate him, and a 5 inch girth is average.In the end of the day, just find a person that you can love, and use methods to tighten yourself up, and use sex toys like penis extension sleeves to accomodate for your looser vagina/his smaller girth. It's not a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Wow! This may well be my favorite topic. I have looked a lot to fine a sensitive discussion on this matter. I could easily go on for hours on it. I'll start with the short answer and will check back to see if anyone follows up. Yes! most emphatically, size matters a great deal to me. I love large and loose! I don't have an especially large penis, but I find a woman who is "big down there" to be a much better sex partner for a number of reasons. I'm absolutely sincere about this. I have always been both offended and perplexed by jokes and derogatory comments about loose pussies. Most of all I have felt bad for women who feel self conscious about their size. That, more than anything else can get in the way of good sex and good sexual self-esteem. I wasted a number of years when I was younger (I'm in my fifties now) worried about my penis size. That was a huge waste I now know. I will check back to see if anyone else cares to discuss this...especially women. I'm not looking to meet anyone. I am very happily married to a beautiful woman (with a nice big one) and I prefer to remain anonymous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): When I first got with my wife she was a virgin. I will tell you, it was very difficult when we started having sex. I am very close to 8" long, with a circumference of 7". After 9-years, and a child together, it is a lot better than it used to be, for sure. It was difficult to penetrate her at all for the first year; it's not a thing good when you can feel a women's pelvic bones popping!
The other thing that was a problem, was the fact that she was so tight that it caused me to lose my erection -- I don't have that problem anymore.
I would still classify her puss as tight, but nothing like it was years ago. It is still difficult to get 2 fingers inside her, and I have to make sure she is very wet before I use my dick, but it is still better.
For all of those guys that want a super-tight pussy, I think that you have sexual problems, since most women are not as tight as you think. For example, when my wife is really getting into "it", she can grip so hard that it hurts. However, in a relaxed-state it is not that tight; not bad, but not that tight. If she wants to, though, she can squeeze her pussy so tight that I cannot help but to cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): Yes the size of a vagina does matter to a man. I heard but I know of a product that can be used to put the grip back into you and your sexlife called Virginal. It does work, I have used it many times after situations that I didn't want my boyfriend to know about. My friend told me about it. You can find it at a site called www.virginalonline.com. Check it out, and let me know how it turns out for you. But to awnser your question, yes! Most men like it tight.
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reader, Boyd +, writes (16 November 2009):
I'm married to a woman with a very large stretchy vagina. I have actually had my whole fist inside her during foreplay (11 inches I'm circumference).She has openly told me that she loves big penis. She's told me all about her past and especially how she LOVED the large ones. We went shopping for some adult toys and she picked out thick 10inch ones. Now I'm honestly about 4 1/2 inches long and exactly 5 around. I Love her loose vagina, it is such a turn on for me to see it hang open when she is on her hands and knees. My Ex was much tighter and it did have more feeling during intercourse but, for some reason I just Love looser women! I think that's why I'm so attracted to tall women, I magine them having large genitalia. We play with the boys, as she affectionately calls her toy collection about every other time we make love and I love to slip in her with one of those monster dongs, she goes crazy!!! I love it when I pull the big one out and I stay in and barely touch the sides... Sweet!
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reader, Endy +, writes (31 October 2009):
And women lie when they say size doesn't matter, because you never hear hem say "he doesn't have a big dick but boy he is good in bed!" Do you?
XOXOXOXOXOXO
I know I have said that. Because, frankly, it's the oral sex that matters the most, not the vaginal.
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reader, NMAndre +, writes (29 September 2009):
It matters to me but there are lots of ways around a size incompatability. Somebody below said guys like all vaginas and that's so true (and we like its owner even more). It's just that each one presents its own unique situation, when matched up with our own "situation." :-)If you do have a size mismatch -- either way, too big or too small -- there is lots of advice on the Internet for how to still pleasure each other. I imagine the advice to couples when the man has a small/large penis is also helpful for when the woman has a large/small vagina. I have used this advice for my own size challenges and it is very helpful.If I had my druthers, I don't want it too tight or too loose. Too tight is overly stimulating and makes it hard to last very long. Too loose, especially if she lubricates a lot, makes it hard to get enough stimulation. But like I said, there are methods for dealing with either situation.I've read that the most challenging situation is when the guy is long and the woman is shallow. Apparently this can be painful for the woman and frustrating for the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): I think that the size of a vagina and the entrance does indeed matter. I am a male of average length and slightly above average girth and have had sex with many different women. Some are tight, some are not. Sex can be great with both, but the girl that I am with now has a XXXL vajayjay. This was not really a problem at first, but now, I lose my erection unless I'm in the zone and/or throw it into pneumatic jack hammer mode.This is frustrating for both of us. She has had two children naturally and I don't know if that is the cause or if she is just a "big" girl down there. It feels torn up between her vagina and her anus pretty bad and I am wondering if her doctor did a botched sticth job... My previous partner was so tight ( one finger, maybe two if daring ) and to now be with a girl who is looser ( three meaty fingers easy ) if messing with me big time. I love her alot, but also know that sex is an important part of a relationship. She also had an interracial experience and that also messes with my head....right or wrong.Sex is both mental and physical and I am having a hell of a time coping with this problem. What can she do? Kegels seem to be overrated with her. Vaginoplasty??? What do I suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): I'm sorry to pop any bubbles here - but the truth is that vaginal size definitely matters - no guy likes going with a girl who is big down there. A guide is that if you can't squeeze your index finger hard, then you can improve...The good news is that ALL women can make themselves tighter, by doing sets of kegel of pc muscle/pelvic floor exercises. Just contract the vaginal wall muscles, repeating 20 times, then hold for 20 seconds, repeat this 5 times. You should work up to doing this at least 20 times a day ( Ido it 100 and have an INCREDIBLE sex life with a guy who is a little on the slim side - but my soul mate - he says I am the tightest he has known - and when I was in my twenties this was DEFINITELY NOT THE CASE!!!) the sad truth is that most women are too lazy or indifferent about their sex lives to even bother with this simple exercise that can be done at work or doing the shopping, (or driving along, as I do!!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Hi, I'm a pretty young girl (about twenty) but I've been blessed with the gift of game. I've been with men and women and if you ask me size really doesn't matter, just like looks don't matter that much (I mean you have to be attracted to the person obviously but still..) what matters the most is how good you are in bed. For example, one of the first guys I was with had an REALLY big penis but to be honest it was AWFUL! For one thing it hurt like hell and to make it worse, he didn't know how to use it... I'm telling you it must of take all of about five minute...ridiculous! On the flip side, I've never had any complaints about my being loose except from some guys who were a little below average but I eventually tightened up after a few weeks. Also, I found that sex with one of the below average guys was some of the best sex of my life. I'm sure having an eternally tight vagina is really nice for whoever your fucking but , honey, if your a lame fuck your a lame fuck and neither the tightest pussy or the biggest dick is going to fix that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): My boyfriend told me that there is a difference in having a tight vagina and good sex. You can have a tight vagina and have bap sex, but if your sex game is right then it doesnt matter how loose your vagina is. Your sex could actually be better than the girl with the tight vagina.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): i dont think it matters weather she has a tight or loose vagina i mean some could ask does it matter of the lenght an width of the penis? i reckon it all depends on the person weather or not they're comfortable they could be tense but tight vagina's could be more to a guys pleasure id say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): Listen, there is a difference between a tight and lose vagina. that's why they feel different. I believe and scientifically understood that lack of exercise , especially after birth can leave you open like a door. A lot of women talk of how a man should be in shape and big , and this and that. Well if you ladies want length, you should do some kegels and exercise too... I'm not trying to be mean, I'm saying it like it is. You have to keep yourself as attractive, as much as you expect us to be a certain way. By the way I'm really well hung and thick, I'm speaking on behalf of a lot of guys. Because apparently women are so demanding in what they want, well you know what...How about you girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): Im a 33 year old guy and iv been with a lot of women, i didnt notice wether any of them where tight or loose i think it is just a thing that men like to say to look like theyr sexual and know everything about it Likee.. she had a nice tight pussy or her flapss where loosee BUT all of them felt the same to me but i enjoyed the sex more with the people who i was sexually drawn too or had strong feelings for.
Dont worry about it girls... MEN LOVE ANY TYPE OF PUSSY !!!
(UNLESS THEIR GAY)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I think if woman answered honestly, they would admit to size mattering. My current love interest told me at one time, that her x husband was so large that once she was wearing a tampon an it just simply fell out...Of course by her saying this, it made me fill insecure about my size (never did before)...And of course she said she was so embarrased and never got over it...She was trying to explain why she was so stretched and big down there...Despite her trying to get me to feel sorry for her and crushing my ego at the same time..I realized that she probably had sex with him before marriage and realized his size before hand...Yet really dug sex with him...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Hi,
I had a girl once who was very tight. I thought it would be like it normally is ( I am quite wide ) in that it squeezes in at first but after a while she would loosen up. Not in this case, we stopped after about an hour as I was starting to get very sore, then the bruising came up and it hurt like hell if I got wood over the next few days. So no thanks.
My current beau is very loose, and its just how I like it, you can enter in any position, no bruising, and I love the look of a nice wide pussy..yum yum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I had no clue this question was gonna be so visible. I have never been told I'm loose my husband and I enjoy each other very much. I was never told I'm loose. Why do men want it biger then, I enjoy my husband's size and he still wants it bigger to please me more. Thank You all for taking the time to continue the repplies Happy Holidays/ : - )
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I am a thirty year old man. Been divorced for over five years now and have taken full advantage of my situation. I would say I am very experienced. I think complaining about it being too loose is a put down to any woman. I have had them in the early twenties to the fifties range. There is far more to sex than a just a tight vagina. Even if it was loose, afterwards I kiss her and sincerely tell her how wonderful the experince was, never mentioning looseness. The last thing any woman needs to hear, especially an older woman, is it's loose. That's really mean spirited. Personally, I have never experienced one too loose. I truly love a vagina whether tight or loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I am like some of the previous posters. I like it a bit loose. I am one who likes a lot of time and playing around. If is too tight, I orgasm faster than I like. Like one mentioned, they all feel good, loose or tight. Unlike many, I am old school. I also enjoy a thick black bush on a woman who is very pale compected That contrast is a real turnon to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Hell yes it matters! Ever notice that a woman who is a little tighter tends to moan and be more "into" it. A woman who is wider than your penis will have to work a little harder, normally she will have to be on top to achieve pleasure. And if she's been with "bigger" dudes she's used to being on top of them, and that means alot. And women lie when they say size doesn't matter, because you never hear hem say "he doesn't have a big dick but boy he is good in bed!" Do you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Does not matter.. JUst like women say, it is not the size it is how you use it!
If a women knows how to really please a man, move just right etc. it just does not matter..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I am a 25 year old man. I met up with a 52 year old woman about 6 months ago. She was tall, a bit chunky and is the oldest I have ever been with. She was very loose. However, I didn't mind a bit. It was tight enough to feel very nice and I am not a big guy by any means. We both got off with no problem. In fact, it was so good we met several more times. Personally, I think tightness is overrated. I have never found one that didn't feel good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): On several occasions, I had sex with this 32 year old female who had never bore children. I know she loved her sex and was far, far from a vigin. To be honest, my penis size is a bit below average as to length and girth. She had the tightest vagina I have ever encountered. So tight, I orgasmed in very short time. Not a pleasurable situation for her or me as we hadn't even really gotten started. I have had more than a few near virgins, girls who had intercourse only a couple of times before me. While tight, NONE were that tight. This must be some sort of a characteristic the 35 year old was born with. Believe me, tighter is not always better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): I don't think tall, short, thin or heavy have anything to do with the size of the vagina.
My wife is about 5'2" and 105 pounds and you could park a limo in her vagina, which is perfect for sex because it makes me last longer.
I have been with larger women that I could barely get my penis in. I don't think there is any relationship between body size and vaginal size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank You I appreciate your anwers, specially the one from troubledtoomuch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): There was another question a couple of days ago on the same subject. The vagina expands or contracts to accommodate a wide range of penis sizes, up to a point. The main problem seems to happen if the vagina will not expand enough to accommodate a large penis. Different women can accommodate different sizes. Even if the penis is too big for a certain woman, there will be no problem if the guy is considerate and careful. However, it is a little more fun for the guy if he does not have to worry about hurting the woman. My wife is not very big down there and neither am I. However, when I was younger, I could hurt her in some positions because I was just long enough to poke her cervix if not careful. Now that I am older and slightly shorter, I can just barely gently hit her cervix if not careful. After 28 years, our sizes match just about perfectly :)
On the penis size thing, if the guy is small then the vagina will not expand as much as if the guy is large. Therefore both sizes will fit fine. I've only had 5 partners, but both they and I enjoyed sex together. One woman was short and one was nearly as tall as me. It didn't matter.
Perhaps some men get their kicks by being able to poke the woman's cervix hard and hurt her. I think that is rare and I certainly got no joy from it when I would hurt someone on a rare occasion. I do, however, like the feeling of just being able to gently touch my wife's cervix now in certain positions. She likes that feeling also. The feeling to me now is that I am just the perfect size for her, and I guess it helps my ego a little. Hurting her did not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I am interested in hearing from the guys on this subject too!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Interesting question. As i've wondered about this myself a couple of months ago, i've done some research (with my boyfriend - and some of my male friends) The most general answer - or rather, the conclusion, is that is doesn't matter, as long as you know how to use it.
Vagina's vary in size pretty much the same way Penises do. Some have larger holes, some have tighter holes, some are shorter, longer, some have a protruding clitoris etc etc etc.
The main thing to remember, is position. This is the most important thing. I don't know about the rest of the girls out there, but the best sex i've ever had, was with a guy with a tiny penis. This was because he knew exactly how to optimise his manhood. He knew which positions would reach the correct spots, and although not all of them worked for me - it took trial and error to figure it out. The same counts for females. Yes, not all of us are tight, but if you know how to use it, you can drive him wild.
On the emotional side - i cannot help you on that. I didn't have the guts to do research on the emotional side of guys during sex. Only the physical...
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