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writes: I want some insights on this. Does a strong crush ever fade away completely? Is it possible for it to return even after one's OVER it?I had a crush on a guy at college, who never really took notice of me anyway. His indifferent behaviour towards me caused to get over him till I found I was no longer thinking of him even once in months. I was happy and content to have got rid of him at last. But this year I have a class with him, and I found some of the old feelings rush within me. And since then, I've been quite disturbed. I keep thinking about him and what I used to feel about him. I almost feel like I want those back, though I know I really don't want to. I was over him!! WTF??? How can I drive these thoughts away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): Yes it does. I had a huge crush on a guy while I was in college, it lasted about 3 years. After that I haven't seen him in a while and then I suddenly run into him at a wedding and ended up sitting next to him. To my surprise I realized I don't even like him, his voice and his personality. So, yeah, you get over it in time.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 I think with this kind of thing, it's very much 'out of sight, out of mind'. I've thought I was over someone I liked at school, until I bumped into them a few years later and found that I still had some feelings for them. So you're not alone when it comes to this!
Strong feelings are very difficult to burn away and I think that, although they do fade with time, they rarely fade completely. Because you'll be seeing this guy more often, your feelings for him will be more stimulated so I reckon you'll be thinking about him for a while.
Even if he occupies your mind a lot more than you'd like, I think the best thing is not to put too much pressure on yourself. Trying to repress your feelings will only make it worse. There's nothing wrong with liking him or thinking about him, and you can't help it: it's just that you don't like it. If you let yourself feel instead of fighting your emotions, you're likely to get more clarity of mind a lot sooner.
I've found writing my thoughts down very useful in the past. It helped me organize everything that was going on in my head and see things a little clearer and more rationally. I also felt that I'd got a lot off my chest after writing because it wasn't something I really wanted to talk to anyone about. You might want to give that a try and see if it works for you.
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