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writes:Does a guy get upset/angry if when giving a hand job and he asks you to go down on him because he is about to come and he didn't have anything to clean him self afterwards and you refuse? I mean we were just making out and things went a bit further but I was shocked that he asked me to go down on him especially as I don't know if he has anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): I'm going to assume you are not talking about clean as in bad hygiene or STD's, although if you don't know this guy very well i'd be worried about STD's too because you CAN catch some of those through oral sex too. If he has bad hygiene just tell him you won't do anything for him until he showers, he'll catch on quick.He probably just wanted to feel your mouth on him and wasn't thinking of the situation he was putting you in. Maybe you guys need to slow down and have "that" talk and ask about his STD report and then go from there. I will say that some guys do like to finish in a girls mouth and then want them to swallow. I'm sure he just got caught up in the moment and wasn't thinking straight. bottom line it's never right for anyone to get angry or upset when you refuse to do something sexually, that's your right, it's supposed to be fun not punishment or a job.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Your question was a little confusing, but the jist of it is that he wants you to go down on him and save him the mess - this isn't a reason to go down on a guy, not a very good one at any rate!! If you say no, you say no. End of story. You are in charge of your body and responsible for it. If you don't want to go down on him then that is your choice. If he doesn't want the mess, stop the whole thing. Its either the mess or nothing, there are no two ways about it, especially if you don't want to go there.
You are absolutely right that you don't know if he has anything, and by saying no you're being very responsible - he should respect that.
If he gets angry because you say no, he isn't the right man for you.
No woman, or man for that matter, should do anything they do not want to do or do not feel comfortable with.
Most men should understand. But if they don't, do not do it just to appease him. He isn't worth it if he makes you feel bad about looking out for yourself.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 November 2009):
Well a good guy won't, let me put it that way. Well done for protecting yourself, so keep that up. Don't be pressurized. A guess most women feel the same about oral sex, so I doubt you're alone. I think you could bring it up with your boyfriend that you don't like doing it just after he's come. Hopefully he'll listen and actually understand.
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