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writes:So there's this guy... we have the same political views, beliefs, etc. and he respects me. i think i'm in love. the problem? he's 10 years older than me. in the future, how can this work? i've heard of many successful marriages where the age difference is 20 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): I feel the same as you, hun. My bf is 30 and I'm 18!! We both have the same beliefs in ALMOST everything. He likes me and I like him, that's all that should matter. Age is just a number, if it's meant to be it'll work!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): I have 2 exes that were a lot older than me. One was 9 years older and the other was 26 years older. Yes, 26 years! Even though the one who was 9 years older had an easier time relating to me and we enjoyed life and doing similar things together alot I don't think age can make or break a relationship.
The ex who was 26 years older than me was an alcoholic and we had too many different interests. He had friends from various age groups so age was not the biggest problem. The alcohol was. Maybe it would have really worked out if we had more things in common and if he didn't choose alcohol as his most important priority in life.
It's all about 1) love and 2) compatibility. That's what makes a relationship endure - well at least those are the 2 most fundamental things. You could meet someone exactly your age and have nothing in common and it would never work. So age difference is not as big of a deal as people make it out to be.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 January 2009):
 Age difference is possibly more notable to you at this point in life, but the older you get, it becomes less and less pertinent. However, in your case, apparently since you are below the legal age, this is VERY important. He could and should be considered a criminal sex offender if he has any kind of sexual relations with you.
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reader, sky77 +, writes (17 January 2009):
There's no correlation between a successful relationship and age difference. What matters the most is how each of you care for one another and what your expectations are in your relationship. As corny as it may sound in this day and time true love is ageless. There are great loves throughout history where a couple’s age difference is greater than 10 years and their love has endured the test of time. Rather than being focused on the age issue perhaps people should be more focused on the level of maturity of individuals. It’s a common knowledge that on average, females tend to mature quicker than males. An older man can be more caring and understanding because he may have experienced life to a larger extent. In other words it’s presumable that this man did not live in a vacuum in the last 10 years, but rather he had 10 more years of maturing than someone your age. He may have made more mistakes but the wisdom gained through those mistakes can be priceless in a successful relationship. But most importantly, irrespective of anyone’s age, what is paramount above all is that the person must have a good heart and sound moral conviction. In order to find that out, unfortunately will take time and patience. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): You may not be in love but certainly you can like him. I as well have a guy that is 10 years older than me but the difference is he told me he likes me. If your comfortable enough to talk to him about it I would suggest that you do. You don't want to wait around for something that will never happen. But in the future yes this could work out. Age difference doesn't matter in a relationship.
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