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writes: Hi just a quick question, does anyone here find it hard to get on with their mother-in-law/mother-in-law to be?Me and my fiance have been together for almost a year and even now I find it hard to get on with his mother. She drives me mad! She's so immature and I don't mean like wanting to have a laugh all the time because I could handle that but like talking like a child. Actually worse than that, imagine a cat that can talk and thats how she talks.She can't let us be left alone. Like we could say we're going for a drive just us two to relax after work or whatever and she'll ask to come. When my fiance says no she bugs him until he gives in. And whenever we're having a laugh between ourselves she buts in. 'What was that?', 'What did you say?', 'If you don't tell me it's because you're talking about me'. So in the end she finds out what we were laughing about.She makes me want to scream. Does anyone else feel like this or felt like this? Please helpThanks x
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reader, Catlova +, writes (26 October 2006):
I don't seem to have any problems with getting with my two mothers-in-law, but when it comes to my 33-year-old sister-in-law, it is another story. I have to admit that she is very mean to me, my siblings, and her kids, so I stay away from her as much as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): I must be one of the lucky ones as my mother in law is fine.
I think you both need to start screening your conversation in her presence. Don't mention plans, don't have private laughs, don't talk about anything that could be a problem when she is around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2006): Believe me your not the only one. I have been with my partner 6 years and we have a 2 year old daughter 2gether. My mother in law is the most immature women i have ever meet. She thinks its cool to swear and act like a teenager, and she does this infront of my daughter. She thinks she is my best friend, but i can't stand her. She regularly tells me how i should leave her son because he loves her more than me and if he ever had to chose he'd chose her. If he goes out with his mates, she sits there telling me he's out cheating, and he only went out because he doesn't love me. If i tell her not to give something to my daughter, she'll go and do it behind my back. She encouraged my sister in laws (her daughters) who are 16 and 17 to get pregnant so that she could play with there babies. She had my partner when she was 15. She walks into my partner and my house with out knocking and if she rings our house and i don't answer she'll keep ring and ring and ring.... if i still don't answer she comes up to the house to see why i didn't answer. AAAHHHH!!!!! Sorry i needed to vent. Try to stay strong and love your boyfriend. I don't know how old you are but is it possible for you to get a place of your own? What ever happens just love your man and enjoy the time you get alone, don't let her win and break you up, cause thats wat she wants, she wants her son to only love her and no one else. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2006): trust me dear, even our own mothers sometimes its hard to deal with' what more for mother in law, trust me most of mother is 85% enemy. the only way to deal with this is a big, big distance. good luck XXX......
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reader, Guybrush +, writes (24 October 2006):
 Well that's the difference between inlaws and outlaws. Outlaws are wanted. Also the reason why mother in law is an anagram of woman hitler.
On a serious note though, I was married for 9 years and usually got on with my mother in law, but we had our differences. I probably get on more with the in laws more now than I did when I was with my wife. My mother in law was interfering at times, but was always supportive for the both of us.
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reader, camille  +, writes (24 October 2006):
 It's unfortunate when this happens and yes I have a tense relationship with mother in law to be. We have distance between us though, but I feel absolutely hated! I know this has been the same for all her son's exes too so maybe I shouldn't take it personally. I decided to take it into my own hands and have it out with her. perhaps not the bext decsion ever, but I felt it necessary. You need your partner's support for that though! Maybe your fiance could have a word as it must annoy him too?
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