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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and lately all we do us argue. I have trust issues from a previous relationship. I don't like his friends and can't stand to be around them so I prefer to not go to social events with him. We bicker over the littlest things which then escalate into rows and we won't speak for days. Despite all of this, absolutely everything I love him with all my heart and I can't bare to lose him. We always talk our issues through and try to work on them by communicating with each other because we both feel like there's something worth fighting for. Up until now I have thought we have something worth fighting for but I honestly cannot see us getting through it. We go only a couple of days and we'll be arguing again, it's a vicious circle that we seem to be trapped in. So I guess my question is would you stay with the person you and try to work through it no matter how hard it is or do you walk away because even if you love them with all your heart it might be the best thing to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): After a year of dating, it shouldn't be this hard. Imagine what it'll be like when you move in together/get married/have kids... when things get really tough?? & even if you do survive it to that point is this really the type of relationship you want your kids seeing and being brought up in? Sometimes we want to believe with all our heart that something is right...but it's just not.. there is someone out there better suited who you'll love even more because it WILL be right.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 you don't like his friends so you don't socialize with him when he's with them. BAD sign
you fight all the time... BAD SIGN
you are asking total strangers what to do BAD SIGN
you say you love him but do you love HIM or do you love what you want him to be or who he was? I mean do you love him where he is right now? who he is? remember this man chooses to be friends with people you do not like... what does that say about his taste in friends?
if you were married with kids I'd suggest counseling
dating a year... don't make the effort... leave.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 July 2013):
 My answer will sound very unromantic, but it would be , heck no, I would not stay. Also because after one year of continuous ininterrupted bickering I'd be drained, exhausted and frustrated, and I 'd throw the towel thinking that no, " love " does not conquer all, in lack of basic compatibility. Love is supposed , in theory, to make your life better and easier and emotionally healthier, if it has to feel like you are slowly , painstakingly pushing some heavy cart to get just a tiny bit ahead on the road... why bother ? At 18-21 ? ...NEXT !
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