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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys. I have a guy friend I've known for a few months that I've developed romantic interest in and I think I can see signs that might signal at least some level of attraction on his part. A lot of contact which he initiates, plus there's the occasional friendly/flirty or "accidental" touch (nothing blatantly sexual). I'm 20, he's 8 years older, but I don't think that's an issue; we get along really well, and neither of us is in a rush to settle down.Thing is, I think he may or may not have a thing for our mutual female friend. They've known each other for years, she's clearly not romantically interested plus seeing other people, he says she's pretty much like a sister to him, plus she helped him out when he moved to our area, so he's thankful for that, etc.. But the last time the three of us went out he was acting a bit odd.She was flirting with some bloke and he was with me but looking over at them and later teasing her about it. Could be just joking or trying to look out for her, I thought, but all this childish 'oh we were having so much fun without you anyway, you were missing out' talk was just pushing it.I wouldn't want to over-interpret things either way and either decide on a whim to cut off contact with him or ignore any red flags and end up being some kind of consolation prize / back-up girl.Would any of you lovely people have any advice about this? Should I be more vocal about my interest in my friend? Or maybe just let this one pass?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2013): I think you're picking up the right signs. He probably has an interest in you. And whether he knows it or not, he likes your friend too.... now if they have that deep of a relationship, chances are he wont stop the subtle flirting even if he's in a relationship with you, so you definitely want to sort this out with him and your friend before being too much more vocal.
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