Do you think we could get back together? I miss him so much

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So me and my bf have been going out for about 10 months. He is my first love as well as I am for him. We have been through a lot thogether and we have both been there for one another through so much. He is so sweet and caring and lately he has not been. About for the past 3 weeks he has been acting different. I was concerned so I asked him if everything was okay, and he said yes. I believed that maybe it could be something that will pass, so I didn't take it personally. About a week later he comes to my house and says he need to talk. He says he is tired of the way i act towards him and my double standards. I cried my eyes out telling him I would try my hardest to change for not only be but for us. He took my word and we were fine. Then about a week later I asked him if he was feeling any better about us and he was like sure. I was hurt. I was trying and I felt like I wasn't good enough. We were good from then on, and then the next Friday he breaks up with me. I told him it wasn't fair because I was trying and if only he would try, we could work. But that didn't change his mind. We broke up for about a week and when i told him I wasn't waiting anymore for him and i was getting over it, he told me he wanted to get back together. So he came over and we were cute and cuddly and then he was like i can't do this anymore. I was so heart broken... again! I begged (which i hate doing and he knows that) and i feel like i persuaded him to get back together, but he agreed. He told me that he was completely hurt and thought about me everyday we weren't together. He said he cried and missed me so much. I knoew that this wansn't a lie becuase for once in a lont time he was being that sensitive guy that i fell in love with. So anyway, he said we could get back together if we started to hang out with friends too. Since we were together every single day and just me and him, we lost most of out friends, but i agreed and thought that was a good idea. He wanted to have "us" time the next day and we did. It was amazing. Then we didn't hang out for another 2 days, and it was getting harder for him to talk to me. I felt like I was annoying him and a burden. I tried to tell him about this but he just got mad and said "no your not a burden, I wouldn't have gotten back together with you, if you were." I believed him and I asked him questions, like "are you areally happy with getting back together" and "do you feel the same way about me" and he would say "yes im more than happy we got back together" and "it is impossible to love you anymore than I do" and "i want to be with you forever plus 1." This made me happy! I went on his myspace later that night, and i found out when we were on our break up, he was hanging out with this girl, and he told her he didnt feel the same way about me. I was hurt and felt so dumb. I knew in my hear that this wasn't him at all. So i didn't bring it up. The next day we hung out and had a great time. Then the next night he texts me saying "we need to tlak tomorrow" I was so confused because of all the things he told me and how nice i was being while taking all of his s**t. I texted him back saying "no im done." He called me and said "What?!" I told him all about the myspace stuff and how hurt i was that he could say all those things to me and not really mean them. He was shocked that I didn't want to drag it out and beg toget back together and then the phone call eneded in both of us mad saying "ok bye." He said he didn't know if he still loved me! what!? How can he say that, when i know deep down he does ALOT!

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