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female
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anonymous
writes:The problem is, me and my boyfriend haven't been getting on well lately. It's because he meets me at the weekends when he's in a bad mood or else he doesn't bother meeting me at all. He always prefers his friend's company to mine unless he decides that we're going to a club or something.Last week we arranged to meet up and he didn't even bother to tell me on the phone that his friend was with him. I thought that we'd spend some time together but he obviously had other ideas. I decided to go home again as he wasn't even trying to include me in conversation and he hasn't called or texted me since, except last night when he decided that he wasn't busy. Even then, he got annoyed when I said I wasn't at home.I thought we'd have a future together as we discussed getting engaged on a number of occasions. We're together 2 years this week but he didn't bother to remember our anniversary. Do you think we could get back together and have a future? I just want it to be how it was before.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Some relationships just peter out. Sounds like this one has too. I think it's time to move forward and find someone else. Lots of fish in the sea sweetheart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): Why would you even WANT to resume your frienship with a man who treats you so cavlierly? I mean, so off-hand.
You tell us he's often in a bad mood when you do meet (on weekends only) and seems to prefer the company of his friend to you.
Not only that, but when you showed your displeasure at the friend tagging along and your bf hadn't bothered to tell you he was coming, what happens? Your bf reacts by not getting in touch all week.
He may have "moved on" with his life - I know you have been together for two years, but it does sometimes occur that one or both people find themselves in "another place" after a time.
You could tell him outright how much his behavior bothers and disappoints you, considering that you had both talked about getting engaged. If you do, you risk being told that he no longer wishes to continue. Are you prepared for such an outcome?
From this side of the computer, based on what you have described, no, it does not sound promising. In any case, whatever transpires, it will not be as it was before. It MIGHT turn out better, but - and I honestly think this is the more likely scenario (again, according to what you have told us) it might be worse.
Give it some serious consideration and see whether you want to try to have a frank talk with him, or you do not phone or text any more, and just let the relationship fade away - unless you choose to tell him outright that you and he are finished.
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