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writes:Today I spoke to my friends about my break-up with my girlfriend earlier this summer. I hadn't seen a lot of them since it happened back in June.I was with her for 2 years, and she broke things off with me. Summer has been very hard to bear without her company. I told my friends today that I loved her, and I wanted to be with her for the rest of my life. I told them that I only ever wanted to be with her... From there, some of my friends' reaction was:"No way!! You want to F**k about a bit while you're young. Enjoy as many women as you can!"This shook how I looked at things a little. I know in my heart that I am interested in serious relationships, but now I'm being told that I should try and.. I dunno.. "Enjoy" as many women while I still can. This makes me think that maybe I'm wasting my time, just wating to find the right girl, right now! I also wondered "What if my ex thinks this way??" It makes me sick to think of her already off with other guys and having Sex... I'm confused.Should I take advantage of my youth, taking the advice of my friends? Should I no longer simply want the right girl asap?.. Is it likely that my ex is already going with somebody else after less than 3 months after we split?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hi
I think you should think this one out: You can have a serious relationship, there is nothing wrong with that but if you want to enjoy life that doenst mean that you must sleep around, you can get diseases and then you would have nothing left of your llife to enjoy. Just party around. You should also meet other people so that you know what type of people are out there. You dont necessarily need to sleep with every girl that you date. So be wise and make the right decisions.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Ah, don't sleep around just because your friends tell you to! They're right about one thing - youth is a good opportunity to sleep around, but if you don't want to, what's the point? Not everyone has to do the same thing.Enjoy your youth in whatever way you feel like. You can't say "should I want this or that" because there aren't any rules about what people should or shouldn't want. So you want to find the right girl? Great! She'll probably turn up at some point, going looking for her is harder - looking at the ways of the world, she'll show up when you're least expecting her.As for your ex-girlfriend, I don't know her. It's perfectly possible that she's seeing someone else by now. It doesn't matter. You have to move on from this and stop dwelling on her life - hard as it is, you need to accept that you no longer play a part in it and she is free to do whatever she chooses. After you have come to terms with that, it will make your choices for the future a lot easier. Good luck.
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