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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I met this guy one night through a friend, he was from out of town on a business related trip. We talked and were flirty and we wound up sleeping together that night. I didn't really have any intention of seeing him again but I recently went on a trip to his area and wound up spending some time with him. He was smart and nice and didn't push me to hook up with him, we just chatted and cuddled. We have similar goals such as attending grad school and work goals etc. And it just so happens that i will be in his area for a few months starting in June. when I asked him if he'd ever consider dating me he said he would if we didn't live so far away. However, now distance isn't an issue. BUT, I feel weird about this. One because I feel like he may not respect me because i had a one night stand with him and secondly because I am always contacting him, he never says anything about possibly seeing me again. So i would like some honest agony aunt opinions. Do you think this is worth pursuing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): If you are contacting him and he's not reciprocating then he may not want to date you. Maybe because you slept with him right away or maybe just because he wouldn't have dated you even if you didn't already sleep with him. (Hey, you don't have to respect him for being willing to sleep with you on the first night either.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): No, I don't think this is worth pursuing and I'm sure you already know that and the reasons why. You became intimate far too easily instead of giving him the chance and the incentive to court you. Same applies to you always being the one to contact him. In short, he doesn't need to pursue you because you've shown him that you're too easily available. You've lowered your value in his eyes. Forget about him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhelp!
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