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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:A guy and I met almost a year ago in a meeting. It turns out he's military and had to go back to his base shortly. Since then, we´ve being in touch by email as friends , share joke pictures, thoughts, etc.Last week he wrote me a note saying he´s getting deployed (not to Iraq) for 4 months. I decided to call him to wish him good luck. He was astonished and couldn´t talk much. I was very nervous also, so we cut it short.I really thought I´d blew it, so next day I sent him an email thanking him for being so nice to me. He replied there´s no need to do that cuz he enjoys our friendship and that he´ll keep in touch, and sent me his account while deployed. I didn´t thought he would, so I just decided to wait and shoot him an email for fathers day (he´s divorced and has kids).Today morning I received a note from him asking me how I am doing and that he´s OK. Do you think that by me calling him started something or does he really means when he says "friendship"? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Play it by ear for the moment. You've got to understand that he's probably not thinking about relationships at the moment while being deployed. How many times have you actually met face to face? He might not feel there can be a relationship if you haven't had much in the way of meetings, dates, etc.
You could always just decide to be really forward with him and tell him that you like him and ask him if he would maybe like to get a drink or something when he gets back. To be honest it doesn't sound like there is more than a friendship there at the moment.
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