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reader, auntydi  +, writes (26 May 2010):
Rarely do they ever leave their wives. Even when they do they usually break up with the mistress, also. The reason for this is because of the new found freedom they don't want to be tied down to anyone. There is another reason that most 'other women' don't think about. They are apart of the marriage and when he leaves the marriage he leaves behind everything including the mistress.
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reader, telli +, writes (7 January 2009):
Men are creatures of habit. After age 35 they like sex, money and comfort in that order. A man rarely stays for the kids, it's just an excuse. If he has comfort and financial security with his wife, he will tolerate her and never leave.
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reader, deekay  +, writes (20 October 2008):
Yes they sometimes do.But more of than not they don't.An affair arises from meetings for sex.no relationship stands still, every union progresses whether a married man intends it or not.In these circumstances as the man begins to develop feelings for his mistress he may in a moment of madness decide to leave his wife for her.
However take it from me,it is not the best way to start a relationship.As the former mistress you will always be thinking 'will he cheat on me'.Unfortunately most likely yes he will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): well i have been om the mistress end of this and i think most people seem very quick to imply that the mistress is some bimbo with no brain. Actually i was married at the time the affair began and i was going through a really tough time with my husband. He emotionally and mentally abused me for years until in the end i met my lover. He was married too. so for circumstances too complicated to write in such a few words we met and began an affair. People also imply that men just seem to want a bit on the side when actually the man i met was having a bad time too and we found some kind of peace with each other. This was eight years ago and for many reasons he stayed with his wife but mostly this was because of his kids and he didnt want to hurt his family. And for those of you that are sitting there judging....it was as much my decision as his as i would never have wanted him to make the choice between me and his kids. He is now in the process of leaving his wife and maybe one day we will be happy together. So ok its wrong to have affairs but sometimes its not the affair that draws two people together but circumstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): Yes they do! Even if they are happy at home. Even if they are their wife's best friend. They will find some way to place the blame on the wife. Most of us go through the agony of accepting the blame. If we were only thinner, if we were only more this or more that? Usually they are very good at condoning their actions. YES THEY DO! I know, it happened to me.
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reader, crazy4love33 +, writes (28 September 2008):
Yes and no....it depends on the situation..if the married man is unhappy he's more likely to leave...if he is happy just wanting to try something new then he probally won't leave less the wife finds out.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 If you're being eaten up by your friend's behaviour it's only you that is getting stressed. Clearly this friend is OK with getting sloppy seconds and doesn't quite realize that she has little self-respect. She will continue to make bad choices despite your well-intentioned entreaties.
Keep your distance from this "friend". She will eventually suck the life out of you. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): If a man leaves his wife for a younger woman, just kick back and have the last laugh. What happens is that the woman starts thinking shes so far out of his league that she doesnt have to work and she sucks money off him. Guys that leave good wives for a pretty face are loosers anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Yeah they do. My partner left me and my three kids for the mistress and they are still together now. She offered him alot in the bedroom, things I wouldnt do such as threesomes. I am finally glad to be rid of him though. He's the loser not me I still have my three kids. He has now become just a 'weekend dad' and a 'cheater'. I do believe though that he will realise that he gave up so much for her. Only time will tell though.
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reader, mlcvictim +, writes (15 July 2008):
My H is currently leaving me for a 26-year-old. Nothing I could do about it--I did everything I'm supposed to do. Stayed in top shape, took care of our child, never argued with him.
I have 15+ friends whose H's are doing the same thing. However--will these young chicks last? I've been told that they absolutely won't. But if they do, think of the losers they're stuck with now! Ha!
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reader, Hannah1987 +, writes (21 June 2008):
As a rule, NO! I have been there before. They are only lookig for fun. They have too much to lose. Stop kidding yourself and move on, you will be the one who gets hurt. H x
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reader, arch_cutter +, writes (31 May 2008):
 most dont because its so complicated..they just want to play dont want major upheavels or they'd left their wife already...same for women, btw.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (31 May 2008):
 yes some do
Then they relise they left everything behind and will have to restart their lives, when their ex has taken half of their stuff and everyone hates them.
Men like that wont be happy with their new arm candy for long and she wont be happy for long either with an old man for a bf
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Yeah, until they either figure out they had it better at home and can't work out how they left the best thing that ever happened to them (their wife), or they move on to another pretty young thing.Blokes like that are losers. Always will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, I've just realised how this sounds, this ISNT me with a married man!! I wouldn't do that!But a girl at work is and i told her not to be so stupid and selfish and she said that married men will always leave their wives for younger girls.and i thought, goodness what if, when im married and older I get left for a younger version? Any input from married me would be really appreciated as well. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Yes, I guess some do, but this is hardly the ideal situation is it?! Married men should stay faithful to their wives in the first place, and frankly, younger girls should stay away from men they know are 'taken'.
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