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writes:[Moderator note: I think that the age range of this poster does not fall within 10-12 years of age, so let's give the benefit of the doubt here]My gf of 7 years left me just after new year. It was totally out of the blue. She woke up one morning and said she didn't love me anymore.I fell apart and done the usual begging her to give us another try but she didn't want to know. So now our house is up for sale and we've both moved out back with parents. After a few months I picked myself up started going out lots and eventually started seeing someone else. Then she started telling friends that she was having second thoughts and may have made a huge mistake but didn't want to say anything to me because I'd found someone else and was happy.Truth is I still really love her and would love the chance to work things out. I met her last weekend but we just went out and had a good time, we didn't really talk about us and why she thinks she may have made a mistake.She moved away to be with parents and I'm the one who friends have been asking out for birthday meals etc. I'm worried that she just wants to get sweet with me again so it's easier for her to get back to the social scene she now feels left out of.Do you think she is seriously thinking she has made a mistake. Does she just want to try and get back in my good books so we both get asked out with friends. Do you think it's a case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him?I know I have to ask her but just don't know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): "I know I have to ask her but just don't know"
Exactly. If you want to know how somebody feels, then you have to ask them. I don't know this woman, you do, but you don't know how she feels, so you ask her.
But be aware she could be missing you for any of the reasons you describe. Missing her friends and social life, missing you, not finding a partner as good as you. difficulty with her parents..... etc....
It's common with breakups to have regrets and want to get back together. Has something about your situation changed? Have you changed? Are her original reasons for leaving no longer valid. Talk to her, but be very carefull. She may not give you the answers you want and even if you get back together the relationship may not last.
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