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*aotik818
writes:Ok.... i have a very complicated question. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. I have cheated on her before and was caught. She has caught me doing the "SEXTING' (text) thing and we were able to get past it only to find myself doing it again. When we are kinda seperated she got pregnant and we had a beautiful baby boy. About 9 months after we had our son she confessed to me that she has no romantic feelings towards me which was about 6 months ago. 2 weeks ago i started the whole "Sexting" with other girls but i wanted to get caught mainly to see how she feet kida get a reaction out of her. Now this week she started "SEXTING" with an old friend. Even tho she say's she feels nothing for me im wondering if she still loves me and is trying to show me how i made her feel. For the record i have been doing alot of reading about affairs and other books to better myself as a person. Im serious about changing for myself, for her and my son. I know im going to become a better person overall. SO my question is do you think she still has feelings for me even tho she says she has none at ALL and she feels like she will never get them back or do you think is might be testing me to see how much i will fight to bring us back together. DO you think it's possible for her to not feel anything towards me because she is protecting her heart since i've hurt her before?
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Because you claim to be trying to clean up your act and work towards being a better man and father, I'm cutting you a whole lot of slack. I'm normally pretty tough on guys who just can't find their way clear to govern themselves properly. But "sexting" just to get a reaction out of her is just plain wrong, wrong, wrong. That's manipulation of someone's other than your own emotions. Which you have absolutely NO right to do. You've betrayed her trust, deeply. That's not easily nor rapidly overlooked. I encourage you to continue to strive towards bettering yourself, regardless of her feelings, if any, for you. You won't regret the investment in yourself. Try being honest and up front with her and gather enough information to be able to allow you to determine if she's behaving just like you or not. IF she is doing just that, then I honestly feel for your son and regret that he has such selfish, self-centered and immature children for parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): That is what a girl will say. It is very hard for a girl to begin having no feelings for the guy she has loved and had a baby with. But, do not wait long enough that she stops having them. Go get her, make her feel shes needed in your life and don't let her go.
She is probably protecting herself by saying these things obviously because you have hurt her before. Only if you love her, go mess with her head again. orelse spare her this trouble.
Cheers
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