A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hallo there, I met a really nice guy online and even spoke to him on phone. He is happy that I belong to the same religious group as he is and also for the fact that I am a 100% pure vegetarian. We took it a step ahead, when he started leaving me missed calls, messages, etc.Recently, I sent my photos upon his request. He asked me if I am on the higher side. I replied in the affirmative [being the honest person that I really am.] He responded to my anxiety, saying that he is truly concerned about my health.Then, he asked me some other personal questions and he brought up the subject of commitment indirectly. He told me he wanted to get married.Then, he told me "I believe we are more than friends." I told him that I am scared of committing at this time, because I thought that men wanted girls with Barbie doll figures and that they are being too unrealistic and that I am looking for a man, who would accept me just as I am. He then told me he loves a girl and when I probed him for details, it seemed that the girl he likes is really me. He then admitted to wanting to pop the question to that girl. When I asked him where the girl resides, he said that she is at the top of his heart. :-) I was happy. I really wonder what he is up to. He also admitted to the fact that he is scared to pop the question to the girl and that he is wondering how she will respond. However, when I saw my phone today, there were no missed calls, no messages, etc. that he usually leaves me. I do not understand what is happening. However, he left me a mail message asking me when I would be online. Could you please tell me whether he is ready to commit to me? It's a matter closest to my heart. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): 1)India has not progressed to the stage where parents are not involved in the marriage at all
2)will your parents ever allow you to marry someone who you met on the net.My parents would have freaked out and made sure they imprisoned me in a stone castle by now.:)
3)If he comes and asks your parents for your hand,then you and him and both your families get to know one another- by the end of which you may realize that he is not the guy that he portrayed himself to be.Where does that leave you?.A girl with a reputation of a broken engagement which is very hard for Indian people to get over.
4)People on the net are attractive because you only see or get to see their plus points.
5)If you still decide to get married, after a few years you are going to put on more weight(All Indian women do.sigh).A person who has noticed it now will definitely notice it later.
Sometimes you need to think with your mind as well in order to have a happy and peaceful life.Heart leads you astray.Please think about it before taking any rash measures.
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reader, Plain Jane  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 infatuation....
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female
reader, princessa  +, writes (1 September 2008):
do you want to commit to someone you have never met?
people on the internet are different to how they are in real life...
and you can never fully know someone over the net you have to meet them in person.
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