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writes:i started talking with my ex after 4 years.in the first email he was very caring and asked if i was ok then i discovered he was married then he was weird in his emails and was sending them at strange times. he said to email anytime. i felt weird because of his marriage so i asked him to delete me and since then hes been adding loads of facebbok friends boasting about his marriage etc. i feel as though hes had a laugh at me because we used to have a house together which he sold behind my back and then uploaded a pic of his new house for me to see-how nice of him. i just feel like hes made me look like an idiot and got away with it. i feel very sad. i hate that karma stuff but i keep hoping one day he will regret what hes done-do you think he will ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou to everyone for being so kind and taking the time to answer me youre all wonderful :) x
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reader, 123skyscraper  +, writes (19 October 2009):
cant you delete him from your facebook? block him and do not look at his account for updates, it will only hurt you.
he might be doing this to get back at you, he might not (given the 4 year time period). why are you in touch with him now? get rid of him. he is an ex for many reasons. sounds like he is still the jerk he was back then.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 October 2009):
There will be a lot more people than you think he know that he is an ass. I'm afraid he won't regret what he's done, because he's really a rubbish guy. Be glad you're rid of him. Don't bother looking at facebook again and spend time healing yourself. When you're ready, you'll find a better guy than this.
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reader, called Steve +, writes (17 October 2009):
 All I say about this is - what did you see in him in the first place? You know why you left him right? So why beat yourself up about the past?He sounds so full of himself - bragging about what he has and wants... shame he doesn't think about what he doesn't have or need. I think Facebook and many other social networking sites are full of people full of their own importance (personally, I hate them) and just post to shower themselves in their own glory.You moved on for a reason - you no longer liked what he is. Yes, you fell for his diatribe again but fear ye not, you wont do it again... will you?Move on - he's history. Stop looking at what he's doing and concentrate more on you and what you're doing. By thinking ill of him will only come back to you. Wish him well on his journey and the same will come to you.Steve
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (17 October 2009):
 Not unless someone makes him.You see he is acting out on a social site, and what he was basically doing was trolling for someone to cheat with. And when you found out he was married he looked like an even bigger ass in your eyes. The odd hours emails, the strangeness of the content after you discovered he was married...he was looking for an illicit roll in the hay with you. Of that I have no doubtso being that his attempt to cheat with you (either emotionally, or physically, that is a big problem at social sites like Myspace and Facebook..anyone that is looking for a hookup can find it with a little effort) went south, he has to overcompensate and boast about his marriage to make himself look better or believable to his wife in the event that you or someone else he has pulled this on decides to contact his wife.This is an age old game on social sites called "I was rebuffed...time to cover my ass in case someone opens their mouth".Basically he is trying to intimidate you by adding all these FB friends to make you think twice should you decide to ever let anyone know he was making these advances. he is embarrassed, so he is going the "look how successful I am route". And by that I mean he is gathering troops and going overboard in case you speak up, so he can try to get all his friends to agree with him that YOU are playing games with him, or have somebody try to denounce you as some kind of stalker.don't feel bad, thank god you found out he was married and playing this game. Far too often these type of things spiral out of control on a social site setting and end up ending relationships and marriages.As far as the Karma thing though, one can hope that some poor woman will spill the beans on him. He will continue this with someone else. Hopefully he will be outed. He makes all us men look awful.Best of LuckGR
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): Yes, rest assured that he'll get what he deserves. It usually takes about twice as long as we'd like, but when people DO NOT CHANGE, they eventually get what they deserve!
The best thing you can do is to forgive the ass, as you having a resentment only hurts you- he's too messed up to even notice that you're upset.
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