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writes:hello all, if you send a msg to a guy that goes this way:"sorry i am very busy to pick up your calls. I am just around anyway, but it doesn't mean we must keep in touch. hope its fine with you, take care."what would you think he will understand it as? I sent this to my ex just now in the hope he will stop calling me. i just want to tell him to stop calling me in a nice way. Do you think he will get the message?i would appreciate your opinions especially from the guys around here. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi again Domo Kun,
to answer your question, yes..a year ago he left me for another girl. But a month after that they broke up. So he went to contact me again and from then on we became friends again. We slept together once within this one 1 year of being just friends and it didn't feel right to me. So even if I have feelings left for him, a big part of my love is gone. And I know I cannot take back anymore what is lost. So I felt that its not a good idea for us to keep in contact. I don't see any future with him anymore. I don't know why he keeps in touch with me..i don't know what he wants from me. He doesn't say he still loves me, but he is still around. I mean, why can't he just disappear for good? I realized I don't want to have him in my life anymore..i like my life now, I like the peace of mind.
So that's why I want him out but he calls me like he doesn't know how to read the message that when i don't answer his calls anymore for a month already, it means I am gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, I do appreciate a lot your effort to help me on this. Thanks.
Yes, I think I may have sent him a polite message but not so strong demand for him to stop calling me. I admit that, but atleast I said in the second line:
"I am just around anyway BUT it doesn't mean we MUST keep in touch."
I want to assure him I will be okay but I don't see the need for us to talk anymore. I hope he still gets my message.
And I don't want him to feel that I am angry or cold to him coz I know his type, he thinks the more I get angry, the more I am still affected by him. I am not angry..i just want a peaceful closure between us. I don't want any further drama of sounding bitter or angry.
Pls advise :(
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 March 2010):
It won't work because you're still saying that you can keep in touch. He will still contact you, and will say you said he could. All you're saying is that you're busy. He might stop for a week, but then he might start again. If you want him to stop, you have to tell him that it's over between you and you think it's best to move on, and for that reason you're cutting contact. And mean it, and stick to it. Don't give him the option of contacting you. Make it crystal clear.
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