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writes:Do you think it is possible for someone to stop fancying someone?I have a guy mate who said he fancied me so much in the past but now he is scared to tempt our friendship.. he says he loves me too much. he has been sending me a lot of mixed messages.. before he said this he got really close to me and sat on my knee (we were very drunk) then he put his forehead against my forehead and i thought he was going to kiss me but then he pulled away and he sat alone looking very sad and confused. he is very touchy feely. I just dont know whats going on with him anymore. One minute he is saying he doesnt want to ruin our friendship the next he has his arm around me and trying to kiss me
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): He obviously likes you so much, that if you did get in a relationship and something happened, that he couldn't bare the thought of not being away from you or not being able to be best friends with you.
Try and understand where he is coming from, and maybe you should both try to get in a relationship with one another.
You never know..
a few years from now, you could be deeply in love, settled in and possibly married.
You should try and have a proper conversation with him, as it seems you both are just mumbling to each other and not discussing it properly.
Ask him if you think getting together is to much of a risk.
If i were you i would take it.
A great saying is,
'Try the piece of pie before tasting it.'
Hope my advice has helped you.
Good Luck with the future !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmmm.. but what would be with the whole holding hands, hugging me for a long time.. he also has tried to kiss me drunkenly on so many nights out..also before he told me he is scared to lose our friendship he put his forhead on mine and wrapped his arms round my neck like he was trying to kiss me. i dunno, such weird mixed messages
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Yes it is possible I have fancied many people and looking back now I wondered what I ever saw in most of them!
I think he cares about you, but is worried about ruining your friendship.
Remember boyfriends come and go, friends do not.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Yes its possible to stop fancying someone. I quite fancied a guy a few months back, went over his for coffee, have a few beers with him out, was doing the dreaming about what it could be like to date, but we didn't get into anything, once I got to know him, I realised he is quite happy single like me, even though he said he wanted to get into a relationship, and we are now mates. And both still single. I just stopped seeing him like that anymore.
C xxxx
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