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writes: My girl's bday is coming up. We've been together for a little under a year. I was thinking of taking her to a $$$$ place for dinner(est $300 for 2), I'm wondering if that is too much too soon. I also bought her a gift that cost $100. Should I take her to a less fancy place? (Note, she's into fine dining) Reply to this Question
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reader, scythe  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Hmm, perhaps both the resturant AND the gift seem like alot, but then again me and my partner's bithdays are comin up (3 days apart) and ive spend around.... $150 on gifts for him (im turning 19 he is turning 23) and im guessing he has bought me a certan gift costing around $200 and then he wants to take me shopping. he does earn a decent, but not huge amount though.
so if you earn enough to afford the nice dinner, the no - go for it :)
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 A little under a year shows your relationship is serious and very committed. If it's her birthday, and you would like to treat her - go ahead! I'm sure she'll love it and appreciate it and you very much. It is her birthday after all! However, if not - i'm sure that being with you on her birthday is all she needs.Enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): It's all relative. If you're on a footballer's salary and you frequent the sort of places that footballers do, then your $300 would hardly cover the wine. If on the other hand $300 is what you bring in each week then spending that much would be excessive for you.
Remember the story about the widow's mite in the bible?
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 It depends for a lot of things:
Do you earn a lot in your job? If you don't, then you're spending too much.
Is this a pattern you two have? Like, does she ask for expensive gifts or do you give her expensive gifts to her very often? If you do, then you're spending too much.
Now, be truthful on this, do you think your whole relaionship is based only on money/sex? If you do, then you're spending too much.
It's not so bad to give our loved ones expensive gifts on their birthdays. Humans have come to associate expensivness with love and care, so it's something normal.
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reader, Straight Up1  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 at your age range....and the time together...that isn't too much money...just about right!!In fact if you spent less on her you might have a bigger problem than this question hahaa!!Spend the money and show her a great night out!! And after that night.....enjoy the return on the investment you get!!! hahaaa!! ;)
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