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writes:hiya, i have a big problem.. since i was young i've suspected that i may like the same sex, and i've liked a few guys but couldn't possibly imagine goin any further than a kiss. I've liked a few girls over the years but at the moment, i think i cud b in love with someone who is quite a good friend, i think about her all the time - but i'm almost certain she's not gonna feel the same way. and i keep it all bottled up so no one knows how i feel about her or even that i might b gay at all. i see her everyday and i hav to hide how i feel all the time. i'm starting to get a bit depressed, and i can't concentrate on my work! so, do u think i'm gay? do u think i do in fact love her? and what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): I think you are gay. If you're able to feel more connected to this girl than a guy you may possibly be gay. But you have to know there is nothing to be ashamed about. If you like this girl maybe you should tell tihs girl you think you may be gay and how you may feel about her. If she laughs and ignores you after she finds out obviously she's not a true friend. Anyway I hope this helps you. Byee. 3
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reader, Nibblet  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I'm the same way I knew at a young age that i like the same sex. I also like guys but imagine going further than a kiss.
You might be bisexual so you might feel that you like guys only 20% and girls 80%. and thats perfectly fine. it what you prefer.
In my opinion its not love just really strong feelings. do you know for sure she won't have the same feeling back? Did you ask her or does she give any signs that she might like you?
I know how it feels to have the girls you have strong feeling with doesn't have the same feelings back. Its sucks=[
You should tell someone that you might be bi or bi curious. it helps a lot. Don't keep it all bottled up inside.(I know I use to do that and it kills=[). Try tell your closest best friend that you know you can trust and then you'll have someone to talk to person to person.
If you ever want to talk just contact me(I can relate to your story a lot)
Hope you feel better and Good Luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Maybe you r gay, or u could be bi too. How r u so sure that this girl will not like you back? Maybe she does but is just not saying anything.
I think you shud try talking to someone you trust about it so as u feel better about it.
Good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): hi, i wrote the comment and i'd like to thank u for all your advice. And I think you're right Dr Vendetta, it's not love unless it's returned, at least not proper love. I think i need to just try and get over this girl, and i know I couldn't really tell her how i feel cos it would wreck our friendship and i value it too much. Thank you so much for helping me out with this! I feel better just for talking about it :-P xxxx
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (5 March 2008):
 yeah.re-read your post.you spent maybe 3 seconds talking about going no futher than kissing a guy and then bladder on about women.in love? no. love is somehting you only feel when it is being returned by that person. you're infatuated, which is perfectly ok. everyones allowed ot be smitten.. but its not love. strong feelings yes. theres a fine line between love and lust. make sure you keep at eye out for it.
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reader, Miracles123 +, writes (5 March 2008):
 hello BABE!If you adore this girl you can't possiably GAY! I'm a girl and Ii always know when someone deeply likes me and I'm sure she already knows. Instead of bottling it up all the time tell her what you feel and why you are hesitating asking her out!You could possibly be a bi-sexual but more in love with the females.all you need to do is decide whether you want this girl or throw it all away and look for boys?I'm sure it's hard for you but if his girl means so much to you ingore the feelings you have for boys and you will soon relize that being gay is not you !I'm sure this girl will accept you from who you are anyway.hope this helps you. GoodLuck .
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): What they say honey is if you like someone of the same sex but it feels wrong or not right, then you're not gay. But if somehow it feels natural or right, then you're more likely to keep developing feelings for people of the same sex. But remember, this isnt a condition or a problem! It's a preference, and YOU decide who you prefer. You're in control of your own life! :]
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