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writes:So, I've been looking for some help from various places, and this situation I'm in is quite the rough one.To start this off, it's an online relationship, we talk on the phone, but there's no real physical presence right now.Now, we were friends for a while, but, I had these overwhelming feelings for her hit me pretty hard. So I let her know how I feel. She happens to have a thing for one of my best friends and he has the same feelings back. So, I was crushed, and am still really sad. I'm trying to back off since they have a relationship (I believe it's the right thing to do.), but it's really difficult.And lastly to top it off, this happened a few nights ago. He was ignoring her (supposedly not realizing it), and she came to me for someone to talk to, as she wants to still be friends. As the night goes on I can tell she's really upset, so I give her a call. She tries to act like she's fine, but then bursts into tears, and I try to calm her down. About 10 minutes into the conversation he calls her and they talk for a while, I have no idea how long. She never calls me back to let me know how she is, so I really get worried about her. I try calling her, yet she won't pick up, which worries me even more. I see her brother, so I ask if she's still awake or not. He apparently tells her that I want her to call me (Ugh.). She calls and tells me she sees me as stalker-ish, which I'm far from that, I was nothing more than just sincerely worried. I feel so horrible, as I was just trying to be there for her, maybe too much, I don't know. I still have feelings for her no matter how much I try to get rid of them.Do you think I was too far out of line, do you have any tips to try to get rid of my feelings? What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi Hunny
She wants to be friends when it suits her when things are not good between her fella and her, She chats to you crys on your shoulder and then he phones they make up and you being still worried want to no if everything is cool phone her and she doesnt answer as she is happy again and no longer in need of your attention, Then she calls you a stalker.. YEA! RIGHT hunny I no you have feelings but this girl is using you dont be used love, You are worth more than this belive me, Some people only care of there own lives and problems and if they are happy then that just fine... Hunny Im sending you a link to help it wont all apply to you but alot will...
http://nvo.com/isleepless/heartbroken/
pLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU SWEETHEART LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (23 February 2008):
 No...You were not out of line. She played on your feelings for her and then used it against you. She is a gameplayer and I WOULD STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU HAVE NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH HER. If she already claimed you were "stalkerish" nothing goodwill ever come of it. Please do yourself a favor and do not have anything more to do with her. She has already put that tag out there. You don't need a visit by the cops simply because you were trying to do a good deed! Leave her be. You'll thank me for it someday!Her calling you a stalker should wipe away any feelings you have left. You are young. Go out and meet someone who would appreciate a little chivalry!
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