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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl about a year and a half ago in college, and I asked her to eat lunch but we never got around to it till around last month. There was absolutely no planning involved...I saw her randomly one morning while I was waiting for class and we decided to go eat afterwards. We ate at one of those pay at the counter spots, and as I was taking out my wallet she jumped in front of me and said It's my treat! and of course I ask her why, and her answer is I want to, and I just offer to treat her next time and she responds enthuisiastically with OK! During lunch, she asked me if I wanted a girlfriend and I told her I don't know and she offered to set me up with a friend of hers that was younger than me but I told her I like older women (shes older) and she also said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend because it was a distraction. We went to the museum afterwards out of complete spontaneity and just talked which I absolutely loved. We spent about 3-4 hours together that day. We also mentioned to each other places we could go in the future like the zoo, aquarium, movies, etc.After I got home that day, I wrote on my facebook status good day and she commented on it saying hope I had something to do with it! hahaha which really got me thinking. There was a lot of conversation that day that I honestly do not remember...I mean come on, 3-4 hours...Anyway We went to lunch again 2 days ago, and we ate for about 2 hours just talking and enjoying ourselves. I noticed she was laughing and smiling a lot more than the first time, and she kept fixing her hair. This time we went to eat sushi instead of those quick places, and she also mentioned all these food places that she thought was good and she kept saying I'll take you and I just agreed. The thing is, she ended up paying AGAIN this time, but believe me I wanted to pay for this one, but she just snatched the bill away and kept it away from me. I think the bill was around 60 including tip.So in other words, this girl has taken me out twice and she has paid both times spending about 80 dollars total and I've only spent 1 dollar which was for the museum donation...I know this makes me look like a cheapass but I had the intentions to pay both times.Note: her birthday is on November 30th so I was thinking about getting her a little gift plus take her out to lunch (ON ME this time)In general, I just want to know if I have a chance with the girl...I love her spontaneous-ness, and her bubbly personality, but I don't want to be mistaking friendliness for something else.
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reader, Markingbad  +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Well tell that you find her very attractive and fun to be with. Then say you have to be honest and tell her you have feelings for her and like her to much to pretend your happy to be just friends.
Give her some time to think about it. A few days maybe.
If she says she's sorry but... Tell her your sorry to.
Be nice to her if you see her again but dont hang out anumore as your wasting your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): you stand way more than a chance here pal! sounds like youre crazy about each other! i think you already know the answer to your question but you just wanted to tell everyone here making us jealous! : ) what are you wasting time for go ask her out! if wjat you said is true il eat my hat if she doesnt really really really like you! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): Well first of all she seems like a cool girl, and you both seem to get along great... So I'd tend to say : if you want it, go for it. The begining of a relationship between a girl and a guy is when you test to see if you'd rather be friends or a couple, things aren't set already decided and set in stone at that period.
But if you really want her and don't want to end up in the friend zone for ever you have to show her you're interested in her - and not as friend. Make things clear in your attitude that you'd like to be more than a friend. Don't haste things as you might end up making mistakes, but definitely start working on it fast. And her birthday seems like a good occasion to show you care, and not like a good friend.
ps : cheapass ;)
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