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writes:so to start off with my boyfriend is moving over 1000 miles away.im so upset over it and its breaking my relationship apart with him.he wants to stay together but I have trust issues so what's a long distance relationship without trust? right?he says we can make this work, but he gives me signs, now, that he's cheating on me, so I'm gonna be 10 more worried when he's over there if he's cheating on me.the other day he commented on this girls picture on facebook because her pants were undone. he's the convo-Him- why you're pants undoneHer- ha, long story . wouldn't you love to be here (: lolHim- no lolHer- jerk.His sister- lmfao sorry my brothers a prickHer- he told me he would love to be threw a I'm thing lolHis sister-wait what hahahahHim- yeah I told you what?Her- you told me that you would love to be here , lolHim- yeah in Florida I wouldHer- and to see me (:Him- nahhhHer- loll, shut up you know as well as I do you want to see me .So I saw that up to the part when she said he told her she would love to be there. So I blew up and got mad cause, when your instinct tells you somethings up, then something is up. And I keep having that feeling and I know I probably have it way more then most people because I have bad trust issues, but he then got all mad at me and told me I need to stop having a little jealous attitude and get mad when girls talk to him and stuff. But then! This exgf has been talking to him a lot lately and I'm very worried that if I stay with him he's just gonna cheat on me with her or some other girl. Also he messaged his ex girlfriend (I don’t know if it was when we were together) but he was like oh I miss you sleeping over in your undies and she's like oh me too! So wtf. I broke up with him yesterday and I really don’t know what to do. If I was cheating, I would deny everything and tell the other person that I'm not and try to make them stay with me, so I'm just scared he's doing the same thing. I'm stuck in a very hard situation and I don’t know what to do. He keeps telling me I need to decide what I want, and its not that easy. Yeah I wanna be with him cause I love him but I don’t see how this is gonna work out. Were gonna be living two different lives in two different states. Ill never know what he's doing. So can someone please help me. And does it sound like he's cheating on me or talking to girls behind my back?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 To be honest it doesnt sound like he is cheating on you, all guys have an innocent flirt. I could be wrong though, To be honest with you hun you need to sort out your trust issues or this relationship aint going to work. you said that you would deny cheating if you were so maybe its your own behaviour that is putting insecurities in to your head. I dont see how this relationship would work if you dont trust him because darling you need trust its the glue of all relationships. You need to get help for your jelousy before you get in to another relationship or if you want to make it work with this man either way you need to get help with your insecurities darling this is the biggest step you will need to take, you can contact your local councelling centre and they can arrange someone for you to talk to, its a big step and i hope you can make it good luck
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