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writes:i'm currently living and working in another country. I moved to another country for various reasons (travel, find myself etc...)I met a great guy. We have been "together" for almost 6 months, although we never have officially called each other boyfriend/girlfriend. The main reason being i thought he would leave in another 6 months, so why bother making it harder on both of us by making it more serious.i thought we both just wanted to live in the moment and enjoy each other while we could. we had a long talk the other day, he said he is not in love with me. This was shocking to me, because i did not know he thought of me in "this way." if i had known, i would have opened up more. do you think i should ask him to let me show him the "real" me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey everyone,thanks for your help/words. to clarify, initially, i didn't open up because i thought he was leaving.i was happy enjoying each day...i thought we were on the same page, but we weren't. he was thinking there could be a future w/ me. but not knowing this, i was never really "me."i kept a distant....i just wish i had known there was the possibility we could have been together cause i wouldn't have been so distant/closed.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (9 June 2007):
 Isnt that exactly the answer you wanted? That he didnt love you? You said you wanted a short term, just enjoying each others company kind of relationship and that is what you got. Are you insulted that he didnt fall in love with you so now you want to just prove you can make it happen?
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reader, stina +, writes (8 June 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
I don't understand...isn't this what you want? It seems like everything is all according to plan, in my opinion.
Do you want him to fall in love with you so he won't leave or something?
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reader, nologo  +, writes (8 June 2007):
 "he said he is not in love with me"
Are you clingy or needy to continue?
If your answer is yes, open up to him first only a bit more.
Then gauge his reaction to determine what you should do next.
If your answer is no, "enjoy each other" the way you do now.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (8 June 2007):
Why should you open up to someone who doesnt love you ?
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