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anonymous
writes:Dear aunts and uncles, I kicked out my abusive ex about 4/5 months ago. The first three weeks of the break-up he called and begged non-stop and I maintained military silence. It seemed to work as he left me alone. Recently he has come out of the blue, texting and calling me. I answered only one text where he asked about certain possessions of his which he thought I had and my response was short and curt that I did not have his things. Since then he has been texting and calling non-stop. I simply ignore him but I am starting to get stressed out by all this? Do you think I should continue to maintain military silence, maybe respond for him to leave me alone? I really want nothing to do with him and I am trying my utmost best to move on with my life and be a healthier and happier person. Please help! Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Ignorance works well for many folk but it is far from well when there is children involved an this child is being also ignored its so sad to know how much damage this kind of thing can do
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): there is no need for ignorance its a terrible thing to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Do the decent thing and call or text to say its over.i cant believe other posters are encouraging you to ignore him.thats cruel and everyone should be honest when they dont want anything to do with anyone anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for taking the time out to read my post and for all your responses. I had not changed my number purely because of the admin and hassle surrounding it in terms of my professional life and also coz I had hoped it was just a short stint on his part and that he would go away soon enough. Clearly I was wrong so I am going to change my number and be rid of him once and for all. How naïve of me to think getting him out of the house was the hard part when now he's making my life difficult from wherever he is. Thank you all again for the responses I really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Do NOT respond!
If he never hears from you he will eventualy give up. Answering him, even to tell him to leave you alone, is paying attention to him. And as long as you're paying attention to him, he will keep contacting you.
Block his phone number and email address.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Ignore Ignore Ignore. I would also change my number and if he after a month doesn't stop I would inform him that I will take out a no contact order against him.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Hi,Military silence? Lol...when I was reading your title I thought it had something to do with military?.. Another person explaing her story describing as: "royally dumped" I love the fact that women now days are so strong, smart..Sorry that your ex is making it so difficult. Well only advice will be:Call or text, whichever is easier for you and let him know that its over, leave you alone or you'll call the police and get retraining order or I am sure that are many other charges you can put against him if he doesn't stop. Get a new number?Just make sure that this is really over? this is really what you want?Because once you either go to the police, change numbers, he'll stop and then is over forever?Good luck!
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reader, galdegir  +, writes (14 June 2011):
change your phone numbers if its bothering you alot if that doesn't work and he starts turning up at your door I'd suggest making a visit to your local police station for a restraining order on him. I hope it works out for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2011):
 block him.
ignore him
any response you give him will cause him to respond more...
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