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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i was with my ex for 9 months and we were in love. then we had 1 argument and he called it a day, we hadn't spoken in 8 months and i started talking 2 him on internet. i asked him if he misses me and thinks about me and he said honestly yes, he misses the banter and everything else, and asked me what the guy i was with after him like, he told me he still kept everything i bought him and a photo of us together. i told him i still love him and want him back. he didnt say anything when i said that but he wants 2 meet up end of this week, and he started 2 txt me again, but only if i text him 1st, or if we arranged 2 meet,i met him on friday and we got on great, he told me he changed and that he changing his style, and asked me 2 choose the clothes. everything seemed like nothing had happened, except no hug,or kisses,or holding hands. he noticed i lost weight and called me attractive. after i got home he text and said will have 2 think of something different soon. and do you think i might have a chance of getting back with him? please help as im confused and still love him loads.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Go slow. Why did you really break up? I doubt that one little argument would break up a 9 month relationship...was there more to it?
You told him you still loved him...he didn't say a thing...now he has the power and you don't. I don't mean to make this seem like a game but you need to protect your emotions now. You've just laid it all out there and he didn't say anything...he's probably a little unsure where to go. He wanted to meet up because he was curious but as to what he really wants, only time will tell.
So what now...you let him come after you...you back off a bit. He misses you and your company, it's easy for him to come back to you when you're offering it to him on a plate. If he really wants to, let him make some effort.
Don't be too available but also don't play games. Just back off a little and don't tell him you want him back or that you love him again. Let him tell you that now.
Whatever you do, be careful of becoming FWB with him now. He knows you still want him and he may use that. Take your time and suss out what he really wants.
Best of luck :)
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