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writes:My wife and I have different attitudes towards sex.... I would do it all the time, when I do it I think of it and when I don't... I think of it even more. She is more settled.We go along together, anyway. Sometimes we quarrel a bit for this, but then is all right. Sometimes I get what I want, sometimes I don't and I sulk a little, but in general we're fine.Do you think it would be possible to convince her to be a bit more focussed on it? Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 It's common my friend. My wife and I are at different ends of the scale too. Actually we're not so far apart as physically as we are mentally.
My example is this. I've told my wife, I'd be happy with less if when we did it, I had the impression you had though about it a little before hand. In other words, we like to feel desired too. That is half the battle. You might be content with less if you had the impression she was wanting it too as oposed to just providing you with an oulet. I may be wrong but I think it's easier for the person who doesn't want it as much to give in more often, tha to deprive the other person of what they need. Afterall, it's physically pleasig so the worse thing you get is the orgasm. Becasue it's not so important to the less sexual person, they don't care as much. The frustrating part is this, YOU have no where to turn.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Is your wife roughly the same age as you? Pre menopausal women start to lose their sex drive at the same time as they ought to stop having babies. There's a biological connection. If she doesn't enjoy sex she won't want to do it and have babies if that makes any sense. The only way to get through this time is through compromise. She'll have to do it sometimes when she doesn't feel like it and equally you'll have to do without other times when you do. Try to make her feel special in other ways like running her a nice bath or cooking her a romantic meal and you're more likely to get results.
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reader, Dos_Vinci +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Maybe she doesn't enjoy it as much as you. Don't worry you can change that. You could go to the gym, get in shape. You can read up on sex.. Be spontaneous and romantic. Light some candles nibble and suck on her ears and neck while having soft music on. Most men forget when they're married that it's still nice to have foreplay. It's never right to just jump into sex. Every girl wants sex, no matter what age. You just have to know which buttons to press.
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