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writes:I'm almost 20 and have nothing.Only half finished high school,no job,one friend only (too busy to go out with me),7 members of family I live with but none of them can understand my mood swings and even I don't.PLEASE,I need ur replies on 3 questions:1)How can I help myself to start living (as before) when I'm afraid of going out of the house - looks like I developed some kind of fobia but is there a way I could practice and feel relaxed in front of other people again?2)How can I stop this:few hours/days I feel capable of dealing with daily activites but next period I have feelings I could describe only as depression.Also,at that time I can start crying for hours if only one thing ain't the way I expected it to be.I go through anxiety,sadness,anger,agression,hoplesness and regret and all that I can't control very well.It all started about an year ago now and I thought "oh well,I really don't need a job at the moment","no big deal,when I start going out again I'll find more friends","I'm only 19,I have time"...but whenever I'm in low mood I remember how time goes by me and i'm alone,ugly,fat,retarded and un-competent to live alone (dunno anymore is that thrue or stupid to write down).Also,I realize you would want to help me by advising me to find caunselor but it's just not possible for me to do cause of many reasons so I'm actually asking: do you think I can help myself and how?
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (18 October 2007):
You very well may have depression. You need to make sure you eat a proper diet and don't have excess weight. Go out of the house and take a few steps every day. Go a little further each day. Exercise will help and see a doctor if you can.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 October 2007):
 You most definitely need to go to a counselor. You might be clinically depressed, you might just need someone to talk to. You clearly need a MAJOR boost, you really need to learn to love yourself. From the way you've written, I don't think that you can do that by yourself (or if you do, it's going to be very, very difficult).
Find a counselor who can make this journey with you and help you along.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (18 October 2007):
 You need to love yourself, your not alone nobody is trully alone there is always someone out there who would miss you if you werent there, if you dont want to see a counsillor thats fair enough but how bout a doctor because its seems you have depression now most people think depression is all in the mind but its a chemical imblance around the body and medication sorts it all out, but if you dont want to see a doctor try st jonhs wort its a natural alternative for depression (if your on the pill it can effect it). Only you can change the way you are, you want to b relaxed with other people then be relaxed and comfortable with who you are every morning take time out just to breathe and focus on the things you love about yourself anything will do (eyes,lips,sense of humour anything)but if you cant do that write on bits of paper your features and everyday pick one out and tell yourself "i love(feature) bout me" sounds stupid but eventually you will believe it and feel confident about these things
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