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writes: Okay I have a huge question. Does he still like me? or does he honestly only think of me as a friend? There's this guy that I dated back in the beginning of november. We tried casual dates for like two weeks and then he told me he didn't think of me that way. Just as a friend and didn't want to hurt me by messing around with me because that's all it would be. Well that same day I treated him just as a friend and told him I appreciated his honesty. I told him it was okay because I know I will find someone else, that I wasn't worried. Well we ended up messing around anyways. (I've known him a really long time, 5-6 years and he isn't one who just uses girls for his own benefit) Well I later asked him what it meant and he told me he still felt the same way. So feeling like he was just using me, I said forget it and stopped talking to him for a week. After that he asked me to hang out. I basically treated him like how I do with a girl friend (I'm straight) but he ended up pushing it anyways. We ended up having sex. After that we decided to just be casually dating again, no dating others, committed to eachother but we didn't date. We just hung out and slept with one another. I kept trying to get him to commit to me but he wouldn't. Finally one day talking to one of my bestfriends, she made me realized I didn't want to be in a committed relationship with him. I dated his bestfriend for 4 and 1/2 years, his bestfriend was still in love with me and he knew it. He told me he felt weird about it all because he knew me and his bestfriend dated. I didn't want to hurt either guy and I knew both of them cared about me alot. If I were to get with either of them the other would be hurt. So I basically screwed up any chance with either of them. Anyways both me and the bestfriend dated from Nov to Feb. He told me he cared about me but he dumped me because he didn't want to stop me from having a real relationship. Now we still talk every few days and he basically shuts up every time I mention either his bestfriend or another guy. He admitted when we were "together" that he got jealous thinking of me with another guy. Do you think he still wants me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): He told me he wants to remain friends that he didn't want to sleep with me anymore but he has a pattern of doing that. First saying he didn't want to mess around with me. Then doing it. Then saying he just wanted to be friends. Then sleeping with me. Then going back to wanting to be friends. I feel like everytime it gets complicated he goes back to the friends factor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Wow...confusing. I think you should just get out of the situation alltogether. This doesnt sound healthy for anyone. By all means, be friends with them but dont rub your past with one in the others face. They have both admitte to you that they dont like hearing about you with the other. Of course he got jealous, guys have a 'mine first' mentality. I doubt he still wants you in that way and if he did it sounds like it would just be sex, no commitments. Maybe you should just move on to a new guy and a fresh start.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Yes he still wants you, for sex. Is that enough for you?
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