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writes:I have a really big crush on my neighbor. It all started about a month ago when we started talking outside and we realized that we had a lot in common. He gave me a few signs that he was interested in me so I decided that I would ask him out. I saw him mowing his grass a few days ago and went up to him. The small talk was going just fine so I said "do you want to hang out this weekend?". He nodded his head "yes" but was looking at the ground. He said that he would like to but that he was going out of town. I felt dissed. He said "maybe some other time. you can come over whenever you want. It does get kind of boring around here." I went to go into my house and the door was locked and he was standing right there. He said "I can take anywhere you need to go" and then I said "that's ok. i think the back door is open". He said he would wait right there to make sure I got in ok. Why would he want to spend time with me by giving me a ride if he wasn't interested? I think all of this is really strange because he does seem busy but I don't think he is out of town because his car was outside earlier. Do you think he was blowing me off??? Should I go over to his house since he said I should?? I just can't tell what to do! btw, he is about 10 years older than me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I still really like him but he hasn't asked me out yet. Every time I see him he is super friendly. I thought that he would try to avoid me but he hasn't. It seems like he goes out of his way to say hi when I see him out and about. Should I take him up on his offer and go over to his house or is he probably not that into me?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 No problem :) I hope everything works out for you!
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! I really do think that he is interested in me. I'm going to try to chill out and see what he does next. I'll let you know if anything happens! Thanks again for taking the time to give me some input.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (21 September 2008):
 i don't think he's blowing you off, but he's being nice.
He probably see you as being a nice neighbor and no more than friends. You have to understand that because you have such a huge crush on him, you are probably coming on too strong and scaring him off. Everything he does or say you are overanalyzing it and reading too much into it.
I think he knows you like him. probably by your body language and of course you asked him. So now the ball is in his court if he wants to recipocate. So take it slow and play it cool. If he see potential in you and the relationship he will make a move and you will definitely know. If not, then you have to accept that he's not interested and there's nothing you can do or say.
Also, whatever you do..don't sleep with him to get him to like you. Make sure you know he likes you and you have a relationship before You sleep with him. He will respect you a lot more. good luck
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (21 September 2008):
In my opinion, he is actually going out of town. He just may not have taken his car?
I think if he really wasn't going out of town, he would have made a better excuse than that coz if you saw him that weekend then you'd know he was lying.
The fact that he said that he would like to go out, that he would come out another time and that you could come over to his house anytime says to me that he likes you.
I think during the week you should ask him whether he wants to hit the town next weekend for drinks or something?
I think he genuinely is busy this weekend and that you should try again next weekend - shows your interested. I wouldn't go round to his house just on a whim, personally.
Good luck and take care xx
PS Age is only a number, hun :)
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