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writes:Do you think this man that is 11 years older than me is too old for me. I am 20 years old he is 31 we've been together 8 months and he's just amazing, really knows how to treat a woman. I don't have a problem with the age difference and neither does he but other people seem to pull a face when I tell them or they'll ask what I'm doing with someone so 'old'I know they just need to get a grip and grow up 31 is definitely NOT old and I think you will all agree with that.So what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, blackgoose  +, writes (29 January 2011):
My goodness I can't even begin to describe how frustrating this kind of thing is!! Here's a brief overview of my position: I started dating a guy who is 8 years older than me. I was 17 at the time and he was 25 (take note it was all completely legal we had it checked out), so I was still in school and he worked full time. For the first year and a half pretty much all of his friends refused to speak to me/look at me etc, I was invisible and never had anything of value to contribute and they always took the time to covertly remind my boyfriend that he was wasting his time and tried to set him up with other women 'his age'. Eventually they realised I wasn't going anywhere, so most of them just bit the bullet and some have actually started to treat me like a human being. 3 years later we are still together, and all I can tell you is that as long as you love each other (and it's legal), everyone else can bloody get over it. I have taken a lot of garbage from a lot of people, people I thought were loyal friends, family, or were loyal friends of my boyfriend (especially the threatened older females - to them I was the devil), and of course a lot of garbage from total strangers. All I can say is this, it was worth it to not give in.
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reader, wornoutmommy  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 I dated a guy that was 14 years older than me. The sex was amazing! His honesty wasn't. If he's 31 and is a great guy, question how and why he is that old and doesn't have a current girlfriend or wife. (Not him, but just keep in mind).I'm not saying it won't work out; I know it would have for me and this guy, but he moved away and I couldn't. I agree with ShisShisAdvice, the red flags are flying because everyone is worried about you. The relationship can work just like any other, but tread lightly initially until you know he's not a cheat or a liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): no i think u guys good, if ya'll luv each other thats enough..im 30 n my bf is 42 been together 7 yrs...best of luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): 11 years aint a big age gap, my mom is almost 10 years older then my dad and they have been togather for almost 20 years. I dont think age matters as long as its legal and they treat you good who cares what other people think. I personaly like older guys. Hope this helps some. :)
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (28 January 2011):
 It's not that he is too old, everyone's red flags are waving because we don't want you to get hurt. Me thinks at 20 you should be with someone closer to your age. Do you really want to settle down now?? Of course all ladies love things, is he showering you with gifts? Put the relationship on a 1 year rest. If the sparks are still there after then go for it. You have your whole life ahead of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): oh pish posh, i say, to society, it seems a little strange, but theres really nothing wrong at all, its just people think its a little out of the ordinary,
you're in love, good for you. let others think what they must.
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