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writes:Met a guy online about a month ago and we hit it off immediately. Had our first two dates in the same week and then went hiking on our third. During the hike he mentioned that he was going to his parents house after it for dinner so we couldn't do anything fun afterward but he said I could come along if I liked. I declined because I thought it was too early for the whole meet the parents thing + I thought the invitation was only offered out of politeness.We scheduled to go on the hike again the following weekend plus dinner during the week, he canceled both of these outings. The dinner was canceled with a genuine excuse as he works for the police and there was a siege and I know he was there because I saw him on the news, lol. As for the hike, we hadn't made any concrete plans so he called me on the Sunday morning apologizing for not calling on Fri or Sat as he had traveled interstate for work and didn't take his cell.It's now Friday and I haven't heard from him since Sunday. I know that he is very busy with work, but I am getting the impression that he's over it. Should I call him? He has also deactivated his dating profile on the website, my first instinct tells me that he's met someone else and started to get serious with her.What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Thanks for your answers guys, it's pretty much what I know deep down to be true, but I needed to hear it from others. It's just a complete reversal from what he was like during the first couple of weeks so it's a little upsetting for him to just change his mind and start ignoring me.
It's just so frustrating, I've never had a guy be completely interested in me and I thought this was going to be different. I've never had an actual relationship and I am so sick of being everybody's last choice.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 May 2010):
It's very possible he has found someone else. The two females below have given some good advice, but you can take it from a male this man is not worth bothering with. Men tend to be predictable when it comes to dating. If they are interested, they will rush around and do everything to get another date. This man's not really bothered, so he's either not interested, has someone else or is just a bad penny. Whatever the case, he's not worth chasing after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Hi its possible he has met someone else. Quite a lot of online daters have more than one person they are interested in. Maybe contact him and ask how hes doing. Say you enjoyed meeting him and ask if hes still available to date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Did you two ever agree that you would be exclusive? Because yes, it is possible that he has met someone else.
Or he may have lost interest. I think that's a long time to have gone by without contact, especially this early in the relationship.
But he should at least tell you if this is the case.
About calling him though, it depends on how much you like him. If you really really like him, you should call him, make more concrete set plans and see what happens. Good luck!
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