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writes: I know I young and your all gonna tell me I'm too young to be asking this question but I don't think I'm too young and would love it if someone would answer this question for me and give me some tips. I'm 15 almost 16 just to ket you know . I can't seem to "cum" no matter what I do... My bf calls me and whispers sexy things trying to make me cum and I don't .... I tell him I do but I'm faking it... he does .... I don't .... I know it's easier for guys but still .... I never have and I want to.Do you guys know any ways or tips on how to make myslef "cum" ???(thanks in advance)*~VG~* Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not on any medication. And idk think I'm under that much stress... just the normal school drama , homework and chores.. and litlle family things that come up but no big deal really... I think it's more of the IDK how to pleasure myself then I can't pleasure myself. but thanks for the advice tho...
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 There could be many reasons you are experiencing difficulties in this area.
It could be caused by medications you may be taking such as antidepressants.
It could be caused by stress or anxeity or even health issues to name just a couple.
I have done some research for you and found a website which will go much further into this area and should give you a better understanding of the situation. I hope it helps. Doc
http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatewomen.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everybody. you all gave great advice !!! thanks so much. I will try them all and let you know what helped the most .
thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Hmmmm let me see, 1st of all sweety I don't think you're too yound that's perfectly normal nowadays. But I've been having sex with my boufriend for 8 months now and I only came once, he's great in bed and stuff but its just harder to make a girl cum. He's come really close a lot but when im about to reach my climax he has to come so he pulls out. I know how you feel it does get frustraying. My favorite sexual positions are when he hitting it from the back, when im laying ob my side and he's in the from of me and when im on top those are the ones that almost make me cum(if your boyfriend can hold in his cum unlike mine than you should finally cum too) and when he's having sex with you don't make him do all the work like most girls do work with him all the way(push back) it allows his penis to go in deeper. And if he can't make you come still masturbate that always does the trick for me sometimes guys just don't know what to do for us so its cool, or if not have him do it for you and walk him through it. Let him know when it feels really good.....hope this helps!
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Hiya Vegas...how did I know it was you? : )
The following is what I advised another young lady not so long ago, so you too can try these methods. At first, be sure to take it slow and be relaxed.
Now ~ you can always start by doing the basic clitoral roll. This is when you take your finger and thumb and gently roll your clitoris in a circular motion. Get a mirror and watch while you're doing it. If you want, rub a little baby oil on it, this will help, as lubricating the area is important, you may not even need it, you might get moist naturally.
So start slowly and increase the motion until you reach the right speed for your orgasm to occur. Another goodie is circling the clitoris. Use two fingers directly on the clitoris, and then rub in a circular motion around and around. You will eventually hit your sweet spot and bring yourself to orgasm quickly.
The double whammy is one of my favourites...while inserting one or even two fingers in the vagina, use your other hand to rub, your clitoris. This is one orgasm that might just send you over the edge!
This next masturbating technique you must try in the shower. I love this one...find a comfortable position whether laying or standing with one leg up on the side, hold the shower head and explore your vagina, using different streams of water and levels of pressure, wander around and try to find what spot works for you. Give it a go, and remember, have a mirror handy, explore yourself then experience the orgasm of a lifetime. Enjoy!! :)
BigSis xXx
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Does it turn you on when hes saying the "sexy things"? And are you touching yourself? You didnt mention it, you just said you try to come and nothing happens. Just practice on yourself and find out what you like when you arent on the phone, you should be able to. Then do the same when hes talking to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): No, you're certainly not too young to 'cum'! You are probably trying too hard. Anyway what do you mean your b/f calls you? You know, you really can't beat the hands-on experience. Anyway, I think initially it would be a good idea if you experimented on your own at first, then you could tell him what to do. Just think sexy thoughts in an environment where you know you won't be disturbed and concentrate on stimulating your nipples and clitoris and the area around that. At the risk of sounding patronising, your clitoris is the little 'bud' above the opening of your vagina. Slowly build on the stimulation of these parts and after a while, you should start to feel passions rising then...! Hopefully, that'll do the trick. Let us know how you get on & good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): First you need to relax and not try so hard. If anyone else is in the house when you are trying to orgasm then you are ot going to be totaly relaxed. Next when you masturbate dont just stick your finger in your vagina you need to rub your clit as well. When you are about to "cum" you will feel like you are going to pee, but you are not so dont stop just keep going. I do suggest that you try this without your boyfriend. If you do not want to masturbate then I would find someone older and with more experience to help you in bed. ANd by the way make sure you and your partnet use protection.
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