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writes:Do you ever feel like your relationship is over, but not sure why or how it got to a point where it is... like if there is nothing left on the relationship.. My bf and I had been fighting for some time now; I would say for about 6 months now. We don't really get to talk about what the problem is; we just laugh and just sort things out between the two of us. But, we never really get to talk about what is really, really bothering us... We don't have time.. we are are both so tired and busy; that talking is overrated in our relationship. However, I feel like it gets worst and worst.... Now, it is just this space between the two of us; we have missed so much or maybe we just did not know each other that well. I don't know how to explaining it; I just don't know what to do... Please tell me what to do.... We've been together for over 10 years, never been marry.. We just fight about anything, we don't get alone, we don't like the same things.. I don't know how to break the cycle.. what if he is the one? How do you know? Reply to this Question
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (21 July 2011):
 This isn't going to last unless you start communicating about what made you fight in the first place. And that doesn't seem to be happening, so unless you two are willing, you need to end it. Talking isn't and shouldn't be overrated. It's one of the things that keeps relationships going, so start talking unless you want to fight all the time. I'm not in a relationship, but I would say someone's the one if they do their best to make you happy, they're willing to compromise, you can talk to them about anything and not be seen as weird in a bad way, they show you that they love you, you can trust them, they can trust you, you're on the same page with them most of the time, they don't hurt you intentionally, they're willing to forgive easily, and they do the little things that no one really notices but they do it because it makes you smile, etc.. You two need to talk and figure out what triggers these fights. If you two can't do it on your own, then maybe you should try some couples counseling if you really want to stay together. Hope I helped.
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