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writes:Do any of you believe in reincarnation or soulmates?My partner and I have such a deep connection that was so instant that it was like we've known each other for years. So I was just curious if anyone else has experienced anything similar.Thanks in advance Xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2019): Ever heard of Twin flames?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2019): Yes to both.You are close because you knew each other before.Life is a present for you in a way.As a spirit you can not taste feel hot or cold.We have lived many times before.There is more after death and I say it as fact because it happened to me.Enjoy your gift do not abuse it or take it for granted.Love life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2019): I absolutely believe we are destined to meet certain people in this lifetime and that we have known certain souls in previous lifetimes . I don’t however believe that just because someone is a soulmate that this means we are necessarily destined to stay with them in a relationship in this lifetime or that it is healthy for us to do so . I believe we agree to teach one another soul lessons in order to grow . Sometimes that entails being in a long term relationship and sometimes these soulmates can stay for as long as necessary for us to help one another recieve the growth the both need then move on.
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 April 2019):
 No, I don’t.
There’s definitely not just 1 person that you’re MEANT to meet. Think how many people exist on this planet that you’re never going to meet. How many different countries there are that you’re never going to visit and how many people in those countries that you could click with and would make great partners with because you share the same values, sense of humour or have compatible personalities.
I’ve met many people over the years that I think would have been good partners for me but ultimately things didn’t work out for whatever reason. I’ve now been with my GF for coming up to 2 years and we get on great and really have a good time with each other and I know that one day I’d like to marry her and have our own life together but I wouldn’t say we were destined to be together. We have little disagreements every now and again and can grate on each other occasionally. Everything isn’t plain sailing but we make things work the best we can!
Don’t get too fixated thinking you’re destined to meet some amazing person who sweeps you off your feet and it’s a movie like romance. Find someone who treats you well and makes you happy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (27 April 2019):
 “Love at first sight” - no way. You don’t know them, so it’s just attraction. I know you didn’t ask that, but it’s linked.
“Soulmates”.... to a degree. I think it’s a really lovely idea, but I don’t think there’s just one for each person. I think it can be platonic or romantic and I don’t think it has to last a lifetime. Our souls change over time, so surely our soulmates could too? Different soulmates for different times in your life? My first love was my “soulmate” and I hope he still feels the same about me - even if we were soulmates at the time and not for life. To me, soulmates would mostly mean the extra special connections in the bunch of good connections, if that makes sense?
As for reincarnations, it’s also a cool idea that I’d like to believe in to an extent, but don’t put much faith in. Unfortunately, when you believe in soulmates and reincarnations, it *can* lead to some people making poor decisions - like rushing relationships, ignoring red flags, being naive and stubborn, etc.
So, overall, I think it’s a lovely concept to think about, but not to put faith into. Take it with a grain of salt, like horoscopes. “We have a great connection” is good, but not “I really think we’ve known each other in previous lives” or “we’re soulmates” even when things aren’t right any more.
If you believe in reincarnation, you need to stay in reality enough to treat every relationship as a new one, not linking it to a previous life, regardless of your connection - like “it feels like we’ve known each other years, but we’re still pretty new in the grand scheme of things, so it’s nice, but not reliable”. Basically, just don’t get carried away with the fantasy of soulmates/reincarnation.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (27 April 2019):
 I do believe in soul mates TO A CERTAIN EXTENT. It's curious that people have different definitions of what constitutes a soul mate. My own definition, for what it's worth, is that it is someone who helps your SOUL to grow. The "instant connection" thing is just an added bonus IF it happens (for me). I have to add that my definition of the term "soul mate" has evolved over the years to what it is today.
As I have got older, I have become increasingly more particular over who I class as a friend. I have quite a few "acquaintances", many of whom class me as a "friend", but only tend to class "soul mates" as true "friends". At the moment I have 3 of these, all ladies I have known for a while and who have helped me grow to be a better person and who have the same beliefs on the important things in life as I do.
I had a close friend many years ago, who told me repeatedly that I was her "soul mate" because we were so "tuned in" to each other, laughed at the same stuff, knew what the other was thinking, could spend hours and even days in each other's company and not be bored. Sadly her agenda for our relationship was different to my own. For this reason the friendship failed and I have not had any contact with her for a good number of years. However, I still think about her occasionally, especially when something happens which I know she would have "got". Yes, I miss her. Some days I am tempted to get in contact (she is on social media) but I refrain because I know that, despite our fabulous connection, my getting in touch with her would only give her false hope for what was her original agenda for our relationship.
I think the important thing is that YOU believe in "soul mates". My only words of caution here would be, don't let this fabulous "connection" blind you to any red flags which may (or may not) pop up. Stay grounded. Don't let this need for the "connection" override common sense and a sense of self preservation.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 April 2019):
 No. I don't.
Doesn't mean it isn't true or reality. It just means it makes no sense with a "soul mate" to me.
I think there are just some people we connect with easier, share things in common with, bond with etc.
I think (personally) that it's unrealistic to think that ONLY one person can BE that "ONE" for someone. The probability of two people NEVER meeting is pretty darn high considering there are 7.7 Billion people in the World today.
And then consider there were (estimated) 425 million people 500 years ago. So what does that mean? Do most of the people today no have a soul? (well, that CAN be debated, yet still doesn't compute).
You also have some people who NEVER travel. Are they to expect that their soul mate gets dropped on them? Or QUITE against ANY mathematical odds just happen to grow up in the same geographical area?
So no, I don't. The IDEA of it is nice, however highly unlikely.
Have I experienced and extra ordinary connection with someone? Yes. My first BF and I had an amazing connection from day one. Same for some of my best friends. My husband and I didn't quite have that but I'd say we grew on each other. 20+ years and we are still making it work.
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