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51-59,
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writes:Over the last month I've been hanging out with a guy who isn't over his ex. (they dated 2+years, ended a moth or so before I met him). When I met him, I was under the impression he ended it and was glad to be rid of her; over time he's shared more and I'm now under the impression that she ended it and he is heartbroken. Over this month he's shared about her periodically but recently it's been a lot of sharing...what he could have done differently, what he's found out about her thru friends since, etc etc. Over the month we've hung out 3-5 times per week; always he kisses me hello and goodbye and in between ranges from friends to flirting to much more than that. We get along great, and opposed to his prior relationship (she's a Cancer; I'm a Pisces), I think I may be a healthier relationship for him. I think he is reeling from the relationship; he knows he isn't ready for the next relationship; and so instead of sticking around as his crutch and what I was starting to feel like dumping ground, I told him I can't do this bc I'm starting to have feelings for him; that I would like to be his friend while he works thru this but it's really hard. He understood he said and wouldn't want to hurt me. And we set a date in a month to get together. Do you think I'm off in oblivion as a friend forever now or do you think there's a chance as he gets over her that we could have potential?In the meantime fyi I've been on dates with other guys and am continuing that...
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 He wont be ready in a month. More like 6 months or more, guys take ages to get over girls.
But continue to date other guys and get close to them and hopefuly move on to a new guy. Because this guy wont be ready soon, even if he says he is.
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