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writes: is it true that things get worse before they get better? i've recently been thinking that might be true with me and my gf of 1 yr and 4 months. now every time we argue it does get worse but not till later things change dramatically better for us. so is this true or something to worry about? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): I went through this for almost 3 years when my husband and I met. It was my hardest emotional challenge. The only way I can describe it is it was a love hate battle of our wits rollercaoster ride. we both are determined strong willed people and neither of us were willing to lose the battle which neither of us knew what the other was battling for. it was just as vicious as it was love. He would throw me overbaord and smile then I'd looseblood determined to hop back in and then push him overbaord from behind. It wasn't until we punched at the same time knocking each other to the ground that we both just lied there looking into one anothers eyes and laughing with each other how neither of us had strength remaining to walk again so we just reached and grasped one anothers hand then fell asleep. Then when we both awoke we regained our strength and walked down the aisle and pledged love to one another. We had a 28th wedding anniversary this past May 26. We're inseparble because we're determined and strong willed for what we have which is us. Don't give up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): It's typical when chemistry is strong.they argue a lot in the beginning.its their uncanny dynamic to get a balance especially when they're chemistry is strong as hell and working for a balance.it eventuallybalances and the outcome is amazingly incredible.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 In a relatively new relationship, which is what yours is, having arguments are a way of learning about each other. You are two strong willed people, you know your own mind and what you expect out of the relationship and life. The arguments will come when you don't disagree about things. Arguments are a way of discussion really, a bit heated i know, a debate. You both weigh up each side and then one of you will get what you want out of it. The other one learns that, that's what makes you happy in life. This is okay as long as it is evenly done. The other partner will have to have something that makes them happy also. It's finding a way to be together but to compromise how you do that. I'ts finding a balance. Getting to know each other. You will always have your arguments because you arent each others puppet. It will seem better afterwards because some relationships are worth fighting for. Nothing to worry about at this stage. It's normal.
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