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writes:i'm 19 years old and i'm at uni 30 miles away from my home town. before i left home i fell out with lots of friends, just because we all changed and we're all in different places, heading in different directions. but most of my friends have stayed in my home town.anyway, on my holidays i come back home. but i don't feel like any of my friends want to see me. it's really getting me down! i do my best for them, always make an effort and ask to do stuff with them.. they just don't want anything to do with me.i have some really good friends at uni.. but they're living miles away from me. i miss them so much when i'm back at home.mum tells me to just ignore them, she says they aren't worth it, but it's hard when your the one who has to sit at home all the time on my own. has anyone could any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 April 2010):
I'm at the opposite end that you are. My friends are away at uni. I decided not to go. So I get to stay alone a lot. But I use this time to do what I want. Maybe that's what you should do. It sounds like all your old friends have moved on, and your mother certainly has the right idea. It's best to leave them behind and move on from them. Use your time at home to do something else, like take up a hobby, or start a class and meet new people you can have fun with. Living in the past is a waste of time. You won't be able to re-create what you once had with your friends. You've all moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Ive been through this too. Every time you have a big step in life things change. Going off to school, moving out of town, having a baby, new job, getting married.... your life changes because your circumstances change. Old friends usually dont fit perfectly into a new life. You have to work really hard to drag an old friend into a new life, and unless you are both (all) willing to work really hard its not gonna happen. Accept your life and embrace your new world. You will meet wonderful people who will be greater friends.
Some stories are long novels, and others are short stories, but when they are over they're over. All we can do is remember how fun they were to read.
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