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writes:Simply put, as the title states I'm just curious if some women out there genuinely get nothing from clitoral stimulation. I'm completely open to the possibility that I'm doing it wrong, but it's really getting to the point where I'm frustrated with myself. I've tried try to lead into it by talking about sex but she always seems to shy away from the topic. The thing is she really seems to get a lot from actually being penetrated. Things can get nice and warmed up, and down I go...and there's basically no reaction from her at all while I try my best oraly. But as soon as I slide in with the classic come hither motion she moans and so I do that, but honestly, my arm really can't seem to hold out long enough to really pleasure her as much as I'd like to. Maybe I've just been thinking wrong but I always figured women got way less from penetration than they do from the clit.Also, I must admit I've never actually seen it (not from lack of smooth investigation, can't just be like "Hold still I want to try and find your clit") I can see the hood easy enough, tried tonguing under it and an assortment of pulling back the lips to lift the hood a little. Sorry if this is a bit explicit but I'd really just like to please her :(
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reader, realbud +, writes (15 April 2010):
OK, this I find very interisting as I am seeing a woman who is 47 and in the escort buisness. I am 89 and we both like the same thing (Oral Sex) she loves to have me go down on her first then follow up by going down on me, as I said we both enjoy it although she does this for a living ahe also as far as I can see loves her work and I am there to satisify her, does this make sence to you?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Some people get nothing from clitoral stimulation. Some get none from penetration. Some just get a lot more from one than the other. But unless there is no way to satisfy a girl, then you don't need to worry because you can just give her what she likes as long as she returns the favour.
If you're going down on a girl, ask her first if she has had clitoral stimulation before. Because unless she's a virgin, then if she hasn't then that's probably just not the way to please her. Ask her what it is she likes, because some girls are very particular about what turns them on.
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reader, shaniii08  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Im the same. I dont like being licked out it makes me uncomfortable and i think its a waste of time for me id rather have the penetration part so yeah it happens babe.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Yes this is possible. I don't get much from cliteral stimulation but I love penetration. This could be because of what Cerberus said, every vagina is different, so different stimulation suits different women.
This woman sounds a lot like myself. When my boyfriend goes down on me and it feels nice at first, then I get bored. For me, clitoral stimulation feels nice, it gets me in the mood, but it's not enough to get me to orgasm. What does work though is the combination of oral and fingers. That drives me wild.
I also know that hard, rocking pressure on my clit will work, rather than licking and gentle rubbing. If I hold my fingers or flat hand over my clit and press my clit against it, whilst clenching my pelvic floor muscles, I can reach orgasm this way.
So why not experiment with different techniques on her clit and try combining penetration with clitoral stimulation. It might just be that she hasn't found what works for her clit.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): I'm sure it's possible but I've never heard of it.
It's more likely you haven't figured out how hers needs to be stimulated and if she won't talk about it or direct you you'll just have to keep experimenting, get some books or watch some videos on technique but just remember, how you get her off doesn't matter as long as she does and while she might not orgasm from oral stimulation this doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy it.
Some clits are covered fully by a thick hood which means it can be hard to stimulate them without the correct amount of pressure and the right type of motion. Just keep trying, the fact that you care about this and want to do this for her is something to be proud of, don't give up.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Women are all different, sounds like she likes penetration, so give her that... not everyone likes oral sex... :)
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